If I am not mistaking… there are nondebate sections here also…
AND I agree… before I was widowed… I would have been as indignant as you about someone telling me that I would feel differently after. That is why I told you over and over that I understand your feelings… Did you NOT read that part?
No one has been disrespectful to you Julie… we have felt the YOU had been disrespectful to us… Guess it all depends of perspective doesn’t it?
Well I apologise if that is how you saw it but you have to understand that was not what I intended. As Patsy has said several times we were talking about people who had numerous sexual partners not people who found themselves alone or widowed.
Has peace now broken out??? - can we send the United Nations Peacekeeping force home??? ;-);-)
Sex and the widowed 60-chance would be a fine thing.
Ok… thanks… I apologise if I’ve offended you. I was simply having a spirited debate… and making my point. I understood what you and Patsy were saying, but the felt there was a tone of superiority in some statements. I’m sorry if I was mistaken. Truce.
Truce indeed, all if forgiven on my side. Just wish we could all not read into posts what isn’t there, looks like we both did that.
Think that is what upsets me I begin to think people must know me then they so obviously don’t. It’s unsettling.
It’s really hard to know anyone… particularly when all you see is a name and words on a computer screen. Besides… does anyone really ever “know” anyone. People are multifaceted to say the least.
I have just been pointed in the direction of this thread, and read all the posts with interest.
In my humble view, (as one of those pesky ‘men’ creatures), there is a danger of our forgetting that sex, with all its implications, has been around as long as life itself. There is nothing new about infidelity, it’s just more public now. There is nothing new about sexually transmitted diseases, there may be new forms, but the diseases appear to be as old as history as well.
The 60’s, with the advent of the pill, liberated people from the need to use other prophylactic devices to prevent unwanted pregnancies, and people forgot, or didn’t realise, that condoms prevented other things too. That was a lesson that was learned much much later, too late probably for many of the ‘baby boomers’ who, by that time, were happily married.
Many are now reaping the harvest of that ignorance and unwittingly exposing themselves to the risk of STDs. They have, for one reason or another, moved on to new partners or a range of new partners.
We will all have our views about the morality of this, but that really isn’t the problem. Ignorance of the dangers is. The more that can be done to educate the older generation about the risks, the better.
Can we also please stop blaming one sex or the other? Just as it takes two to tango, it takes two to spread the disease. As my old biology teacher told us many years ago, you can’t get these things from a toilet seat. In my experience, women can be as prone as men to have multiple partners. Before anyone reads too much into that statement, that experience is the result of observation not participation. 
I have always believed that one shouldn’t judge others unless one is ready to be judged. We all have our own sets of beliefs and morals, but the trouble starts when we begin to think we are morally superior. I certainly don’t think I am, and this is just my view, not an attack on anyone who has posted here, or their views. It’s just that the debate appeared to become quite passionate and I’m not sure why. Some people have stronger sex drives than others and that’s perfectly natural at any age. It’s how those drives manifest themselves that is the problem and that’s a problem whatever your age and whatever your gender.
Excellent post makes complete sense (why weren’t you here earlier 
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Great post Pappy… thank you…
I see from your profile you have lived through what I have… Glad you posted.
Yes, great post Pappy. You always look at things from everyone’s point of view 
All’s well that ends well … :-p
Things can get heated at times, and we only know each other on here (apart from Pappy and I), but it’s good if we can discuss things, even if it gets heated. Everyone wants to state their case and fight their corner. The great thing is that at the end of it we can agree to disagree and it actually makes it a great forum because of that. It’s especially good if no grudges can be held. We may have differing opinions, but at the end of the day I’m sure we’re all nice people.
Agree with you, just wish I had been understood, couldn’t seem to be able to do that, I do feel strongly on the subject and that came across, but words were added or intention implied, that just were not the case.
I’m really done with it … phew … :-p
Thanks for your kind comments. I’m glad we can all get on here, it makes such a difference from other forums I’ve experienced in the past.
Hello Pappy That’s good to hear …
ummmmmm no . . . just no . . . dont have any interest . . . no partner either so I guess I’m doin’ fine lol 
Good for you ! Pleased to hear you’re not desperate …
Some people would rather have fish and chips
Cup of tea is enough for me these days 
