That’s true, her son could make his life even more difficult,by closing the gates.
Bottom line is that he’ll continue to use your drive to reverse when you’re out and you’ll be blissfully unaware of him doing it, and the bollard will mean that he can’t do it when you’re around.
If that’s the desired effect, then job done.
The only problem is that when the bollard is not in place, it’s a strong hint that the house is empty. Bit of a risk. But hey ho, you can’t have everything.
The only problem is that when the bollard is not in place, it’s a strong hint that the house is empty. Bit of a risk. But hey ho, you can’t have everything.
Valid point - might be better if Carol put it back in place before she drives away?
Oh yes, that’s a good point Dex.
Short of going back to what Carol said a few pages back, I think she said she’s going to put it in place when she’s used it, ie if she goes out.
Carol. As long as your happy with it and feel more in control, that’s all that counts isn’t it.
Stuff what anyone else thinks.
I’ve no real views except I don’t think problem bully boy will suddenly shrink back inside and all will be peaceful. Just because that’s the way it works sometimes.
At least you’ve done something that you feel might sort things out and you feel happier.
It would still make a bit of a dent in his car, though.
Yes, put it back in when you go out.
Yes it would if it was one of these pretend 4by 4 s people drive
now days ??
Oh the joys of being a member of the human race ???
Donkeyman!
Yes it would be stupid of me not to put it back every time I go out… I have decided I will put it back - every time.
It’s set in concrete. This is what it looked like before it went into the ground.
I asked him to add another reflective strip.
Looks like it’s set in about a foot depth of concrete. Good job IMHO.
Thank you Dex. 
Absolute bargain too. Really hope it does the trick without any silliness on your neighbour’s part.
Hopefully he’ll just get on with using your son’s drive and it becomes so second nature over the next month or so that you don’t actually need to use your bollard.
Apart from manners, he just needs to learn a new norm.
Do any other neighbours have problems with this one? If so a united front is always useful.
No - only us.
The other neighbours are in the same position as him - they use our property to turn round. They don’t use my drive though - they go through the open gates next door & turn round on my sons property. Ady gave them permission to do this to calm the fire down created by bully boy when I had the fence…
Carol, l wonder if it would be possible for you to take a pic or video of Mr bullyman having to reverse into Ady’s land so we can all laugh at his disgruntled, furious face! 
You must be joking!! 
Not unless Carol wants to find herself on the next series of Nightmare Neighbour Next Door! There will be re-enactments, and the same video clips will be shown a gazillion times.
Jazzi, 
l was really only joking!!
Sorry Carol, I didn’t realise those two strips were reflective tape.
Well - it’s started!!
Yesterday Tony & I went out and didn’t put the bollard back in the hole. When we returned it wouldn’t fit back in & I realised the hole had been half filled with dirt. I had to get down & scoop it all out with my bare hands!!
This morning I decided to try & nip any nastiness in the bud so I typed a brief letter to the neighbours & put it through their letter boxes. I said I hoped there was to be no hostility about the bollard I’d had erected in my drive. I’d had it for several reasons - two reasons being thin tarmac & fear of the garage door getting bumped.
I said I realised how bad the congestion was and my son would keep his gateway open for people to use.
I then added ‘When we came here in 1971 there was no gate at the end of the lane & people had plenty of room to manoeuvre. The council put up that gate for some reason and I have emailed the council with a view to having the gate removed. It would solve a lot of problems’
This is true. I have emailed the council & my MP to have this gate removed.
I don’t think they’ll take any notice though!!
Anyway, Tony & I went out this afternoon. I put the bollard back in place & locked it.
When we returned Bully boy was standing on his doorstep having a smoke. I called over to him ‘Did you get my letter?’ He nodded his head - said ‘Yes’ and went back in the house.
No bullying or threats or bad mouthing.
I am hopeful…
Oh Carol, I really hope that’s the end of it for you then with this guy. He sounds horrendous 