A bit of a row in one of my groups today about scattering ashes after cremation
A local volunteer group who look after one of the parks here overlooking the sea posted that their park isn’t suitable for scattering ashes and isn’t allowed because it’s unsightly and changes the pH of the soil and kills plants
They posted a photo of some offending ashes in the flower bed
What do you think?
I don’t think it was very kind to publish a photo of someone’s loved one’s ashes as an example of bad behaviour. That could have hurt a lot
But I do get that they don’t want the flower beds damaged or the park to look like a bed of ashes
Have you requested your ashes scattered anywhere and will they need permission?
It’s not allowed in our public parks either and quite right too because if everyone did that the grounds would soon become mounds.
Whichever one of us goes first will be kept until the other goes and the we’ll be blended before being divided into 4 and then each daughter will place 1/4 of the mixture under a rose in each’s garden.
I occasionally think about my parents ashes . My farther wanted his ashs put in the sea at Perranporth Cornwall and the surf club took them out to sea and spread them. My Mother wanted her ashes spread on the beach in Perranporth as well. They both loved the place so much. Now sometimes I imagine (stupid I know) when the tide is full they meet spiritually twice a day.
A few times I’ve been covered in someones cremation when fishing on piers, as the relatives pour ashes off the end while the wind whips round and blows it back up over me and my mates fishing further down.
I would like mine scattered over Strathy Bay, the wildest and lonely wee place I go to with the dog. I love it there, it’s my go to place to think and brood. I also love to sit up on one of the big rocks and watch the waves crash.
My lovely young friend died aged 38 , loved life , big nights out , party party , loved the girls and they loved him . Handsome , kind and so very funny . Never short of a girl in fact often more in different places . Sadly we lost him to a brain tumour .
We scattered his ashes on Portland rocks the little bug…r clung on like a limpet as we had to prize him out of the tube , knocking him against the rocks and splashing water till he slid into the ocean , I knew he would go find the nearest mermaid and hook up with her for a while . Hope he’s enjoying his new girlfriends .
My husband wanted to be buried and he is in a plot at a Green Burial Ground, however, they are all single plots there so I want to be cremated and my ashes spread onto his grave.
As an aside, there is a charge for scattering ashes so my sons have said they will re-enact the scene from The Great Escape where the men hid soil in their trousers and sprinkled it as they walked …
That is an excellent choice. When the last of us two has gone and our mixed ashes split 4 ways, part will be placed under a rose next to the family’s seriously large caravan up in the Purbeck hills👍
Spreading ashes in a public park is unfair to everyone. Find a place that’s special but do it discreetly. Nobody should be able to tell that human ashes have been scattered.
I had the misfortune to attend a burning in India this year, my first and last… i have let it be known if i die in India, i want to be burned… i dont care what they do with my ashes.
Scattering ashes is a strange old thing. This spring I did it, with my brothers, for the first time. Dad had died years ago, back in 2005. But mum only died this year. Incredibly we found she’d kept dad’s ashes in the garage. We’re pretty sure it was dad’s ashes but it might of been those of mum’s sister. Nonetheless we had two urns of ashes. And working on the assumption that it was mum & dad we decided to do a joint scattering.
We chose an old family favourite walk up the banks of the north Esk, just outside the pretty village of Edzell. The “blue door” walk for those who know it. Seemed right. Then in another family tradition, we retired to a very decent country hotel for a very decent meal. Its what they would have wanted.
Scattering ashes can be fraught with peril and while I don’t want to make light of anyones grief, it’s often quite comical
I’ve asked that they scatter mine in two places very dear to me, in the Thames by Westminster and in the sea at Tintagel
They have strict instructions that there’s no need to throw me off the cliff at Tintagel and risk blow back or hurling themselves off, just in the sea will do Likewise not to try and chuck me over the bridge in London onto a boatload of Japanese tourists!
Likewise not to try and chuck me over the bridge in London onto a boatload of Japanese tourists!
