I’m afraid there’s no room for hope. My nephew was called to speak face to face with the doctor at 5.00. The obvious inference is that they want his permission to turn off life support. My brother and his wife have gone to the hospital to support him. The last I heard was my nephew was just going up to the ward after speaking with the doctor. To say his goodbyes. I can only imagine what he’s going through. His mum 
And FFS I’m now not allowed to ‘like’ @Artangel’s post because ‘I’ve performed this action too many times’. If ever I needed to punch someone….
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Oh Bath, bless you. I am in tears here. . I am so, so sorry. Xx
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Azz please please take note of this ridiculous constraint.
My warmest thoughts winging their way to you and wishing you strength xxxx 
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Well punch me instead and get that out of your system if it helps.
But I do feel for you. I don’t know if it helps but I lost my parents, now quite some years ago. We grieve. And continue to.
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Hi
Bathsheba, it is horrible I know, I really feel for you.
They rang my son, but no way he could get there, the other side of the Country and can not drive because of his condition.
There is always hope and if things go wrong you need to know she is in the right place.
The Medical Staff are fighting for her and she will not feel any pain.
It is not inevitable, they got it wrong 3 times with me.
We all pass eventually, she is very lucky to have such a supportive family and she will know this.
She will be fighting to stay, Good on You.
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Oh Bathsheba, l hope your sister is fighting as hard she can. xx
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Oh Lordy, this flipping rollercoaster is still rolling… My nephew rang and I was so expecting him to say that she’d gone, but no. The doctor told him they were able to ‘perform a procedure’ on the ward (she was too weak to be taken to theatre) and they got the drain into the other lung, so both lungs were fully drained of fluid, and he’s comfortable that they won’t fill again.
Because of all this, her BP, which they had managed to stabilise after it dropped to 30 a week ago, dropped again ‘to the floor’, as did, of course, her sats. So now they’ve upped the meds again (which they’d gradually been reducing) to try to correct that. She’s still critical, but they’re monitoring her very closely. And now we’re told the next 6-12 hours will be critical. But the doctor said although the DNR remains in place, all other treatments are available.
Mr B poured me a large malt whisky while I was on the phone. God I needed that!
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Crikey she’s a fighter!!
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Isn’t that the truth! That treatment sounds ghastly, but well worth it. I would think it would give her other organs a chance to stabilize with more oxygen reaching them. Remaining hopeful!
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Oh my goodness, you must be living on your nerves waiting for the phone to ring
But what amazing work they are putting in to save her and what a fight she’s putting up
All my hopes are with you, try to get some rest yourself xxx
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Extra comforting hugs coming your way Sheba …
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What a strong girl she must be and its heartbreaking to hear . You must be very close how lovely you have each others love .
Thinking of you all x
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Crikey Bathsheba, what a rollercoaster, and what a fighter. Have my fingers and everything else crossed. Thoughts are with you 
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Hugs and more Hugs
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While there is hope I’ll continue praying for her recovery. I’m also asking God if he needs to take her please let her pass peacefully. Your post made me cry, I’m sooooooooo sorry for your anguish, this has to be the most horrendous time of your life. I wish I could be with you right now to give you the biggest hug. xxxxx
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Bethsheba can only send you virtual hugs xx
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If hearts and minds can send healing thoughts then your sister will feel it. You hang tight, and feel our comforting hugs sent to you.
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Hang on in there Sheba, it sounds like your family’s collective nerves are all jangling away together but, always remember that your sis is being looked after to the best of her medics and nurses abilities.
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I can scarcely believe the update I’ve had today from my nephew. The nurse he spoke to said they’d removed the sedation and his mum was “currently sitting up in bed and, while sleepy, she is responding to commands. Her eyes are open and and she is moving her limbs.” Also she is now on only one BP medication, and this is being gradually reduced. She’s still on the ventilator, but now on only 40% oxygen, and she is starting to trigger her own breathing. Her infection is also coming down ever so slowly. My nephew said, are you sure this is (name) you are talking about? and the nurse chuckled and said yes, it is, she is doing much better.
To get a balance, she is still critical, still on dialysis and still in ITU, but her progress over the last 24 hours is really encouraging. Once again, I’m daring to hope - to think we were all so sure she was about to breathe her last only three days ago!!!
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