A song that really got to me was Ebony Eyes and even now after 62yrs, it still has a deep effect on me. .
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I’m retired and I make lists - not that lists make much difference.
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Post them all over the place, but still forget. 
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I dont have any free time now , since i became a carer looking after my husband ,
I snatch a sit down now and again , to check my messages and emails !
So yes , im another one thats running around all day , but mine has been for 12yrs ……
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Well done margaret , your get there !
Im dreading this situation, when i am on my own, after caring for my husband since i was 57 and im now 69
Unless of course i go first ,
We had so many plans for retirement/, but will never happen now !
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This is it! Just like doctors fail to tell you how your recovery is really going to be like, someone forgot to send me the know about the busy-ness of 50s, 60s, and beyond 
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I need a rainy trip down the coast too!
Out the door 
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Half of my time is free, and half is scheduled. I can always find ways to fill my free time…like doing something today so I don’t have to do it tomorrow. Always been that way… 
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Surfermom
Being retired working out what to do with free time is quite technical and needs a lot of planning.
So first of all the main thing is getting up late in the morning, that takes care of a few good hours. Second then when up and about is to get a cup of coffee, and while drinking it plan for the day ahead. that is at least another 2 hours gone by.
So by now your heading towards dinner time so have to allow a lot of time for bowel movement.
Of course having dinner,depending what it is, can consume 
at least another hour. so before anything else one has to allow the food to digest in the stomach ,another hour gone.
Ok now is the time to decide what to do for the day. Next is listening to your other half complain your lazy ,of course in actual fact up to now you have been extremely busy.
the clock must be around 3.pm by now and ready for the days work which can consist of writing a load of rubbish on here causing brain fatigue. now Time for another coffee break same as before.
Ok back to work and wonder how the day has gone by so quickly. Possibly just time for a walk or stroll around the garden befor belly filling again.by this time it is getting dark outside. so absolutely no point in starting what one had already planned for the day.
So on with the tele to catch up with the news and a couple of programs then it is back to bed to get ready for the next day
Thank you Cosmos - it has been very difficult at times. Like you, I cared for my husband for several years prior to his death whilst he was suffering from dementia - such a debilitating illness. Even so, when the end comes it is still heart-breaking for those left behind. People said to me that I must think of the good times we had together but I found that an impossibly sad thing to do at the very beginning - I still find it sad now but am more able to cope with it. If you are left on your own Cosmos, you will survive, it takes time but you will find a way to deal with it as I have done. I still have my bad days but they are becoming fewer as time inevitably moves on.
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A shame we didn’t know one another sooner. I recently emerged from a decade caring for my teen-to-young-adult daughter while she fought a rare neurological disease. I know your days and have a lot of respect for you.
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This is a difficult read, Margaret and I have a tremendous amount of respect for you. There is nothing more honorable than caring for someone you are losing day by day. I am sorry for the both of you. I wish you peace and very good memories of your husband.
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I just don’t know how you do it. I am exhausted just reading your account. For heaven’s sake, take a break !
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You need a list of all your lists.
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Gawd, couldn’t stand watching the day go by from my bed. I still get up between 6am and 7am even though in winter the sun doesn’t rise until about 7, whereas in summer I am out walking at 6am. In the evening a rarely used to go to bed before 11pm or midnight though I notice that since Covid that has crept forward to between 10 and 11pm.
Do watch more TV than I used to because of the streaming services but try to limit that to an hour or so a day - often once I am in bed at night. Sometimes that has to give way to phone calls to relatives in the UK.
One thing I have never been since I retired is bored, I often wonder how I ever managed to fit work into my schedule.
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I believe you just solved my problem 
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Like your Hobbies also Martin, I am a serious Music is my Life kinda of a Person…
Bruce it is a bit different down in Australia. You have to get up early to go kangaroo catching while they are still half asleep. We all know you love Kangaroo milk in your coffee first thing. It gives you that morning jump start to get going.
They go to the “mall” nowadays.
Alas you have arse about face, Kangaroos are sensible animals, they feed at dawn and dusk and rest in the shade during the heat of the day.
Doesn’t everybody? Westfield is an Aussie company