Though many of you will have made decisions about your end.
I have started to think about end-of-life decisions lately.
I may only be 63 but so many people die “early”.
I have nothing in place at the moment. No will, no care instructions, no plan on what happens if I become incapacitated.
Nothing in place regarding internment.
I have no one I have confided in about these issues.
I think it is time I talk to my GP to get some advice about these important issues.
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I’ll make that decision on the spur of the moment.
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Thank you for sharing this so honestly. These are not easy things to think about, but I believe that starting to consider them while we still have clarity and choice is very wise and responsible.
Talking to your GP sounds like a sensible first step. Sometimes just beginning the conversation can bring a great sense of peace of mind.
You are not alone in having these thoughts, even if we don’t often say them out loud. As for me, I haven’t made any plans yet either. All I know is that I want to take the best possible care of myself and try to live each day with happiness. At the very least, I hope to live long enough to witness my child’s success.
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With all that has been going on, it has been thought about. I’ve got a ‘Do not resuscitate’ note on record.
When the time comes, all I ask is not to die in pain. Drug me up to the eyeballs and I wont care. No funeral ceremony. This may not please some but I think it’s better for the family to have a gathering at some time later (or even not gather if they don’t want to). All can mourn or rejoice in their own time and way. 
That’s about it.
One more thing. I hope someone will play ‘The Swan’ (Saint-Saëns) and Stranger On The Shore (Acker Bilk) somewhere along the line.
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I have always thought that funerals are for the living, those left behind, so I will leave my family to decide what sort of funeral they give me. I have a will in place and insurance to cover all funeral costs. My only wish is to be cremated and my ashes sprinkled on my husband’s grave in the Green Burial Ground.
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One of my sadly lost early to cancer, best friends requested this. Because there was no ceremony it was very hard to deal with her loss. It gives a sense of closure and release to those left behind. When I see a coffin it grounds me to accept it’s really real.
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A beautiful piece
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The trouble is that many of the family are far flung in different parts of the country and abroad. Also, I know some elderly relatives would have a hard time getting to a fixed-time funeral ceremony.
A time afterwards could be planned that is convenient to all …perhaps even possible for the younger ones to hold a delayed wake at the elderly ones house. All beyond my control of course but that’s what I picture. I guess I won’t care at all if plans get changed when I do pop off.
'I always liked ‘The Swan’ since my schooldays when the music master played it to the class.
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I told my kids this and that they were to throw a wake. My daughter refused point blank. She said something along the lines of “Your funeral is not for you it is for the people you leave behind”. So it looks like I am getting a funeral whether I want it or not.
Did a lot of research on this including no fuss funeral directors who collect the body and return it in an urn of ashes. I have put the details with my will just in case.
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I have all mine sorted.
I have a will, a no fuss cremation paid for and I don’t want my ashes back.
No point in having a funeral, no family capable of attending and my friends are dead now.
It is no great shakes, I am very pragmatic about such things.
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A lot of the planning is the “just after end of life” preparation - wills, cemetery plot, etc. These are all good and necessary.
The harder stuff is the “just before the end of life” preparation. Having witnessed relatives go through protracted death stages, some in need of pain relief, I would prefer to be able to decide for myself when I stop living. If I am lucky enough to be able to make the decision. But right now this seems quite difficult to put in place.
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You could end up mixed in with someone else and no way of checking!
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I wonder if a film called just “Four Weddings” would have been as much of a success
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Does it matter?
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I have by drawing up a last will and testament a few years ago. It’s not really necessary but I made sure that everything goes to my wife first who can then decide what to do with it. I haven’t made any stipulations about my funeral and plot. I want to leave that to my children basically.
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Your kids are right.
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I paid for my Funeral almost 5 year ago now When my Husband Died,
Ive made a will , so thats sorted ,
The night before my heart Operation I was asked what my wishes was about Body /organ donation if I didnt Survive , I told them my wishes and also Id got it in writing when you could put it on a register one way or the other .
I was also asked about receiving Bloods ,I gave them my answer on that .
I think Ive got just about everything covered , my family know where to spread my Ashes, they know what service I want , but No doubt it will be what they want in the end .
Ive started a few years back decluttering my home asking my Children What they want , I have given Keep sakes to each of them so as theres no fall out .
At the end of the day Death can come when we least expect it ,and I want to make sure my Children have no worries , no planning to do .
They just have to sell the property.
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that must be the end plan.
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The funeral home disposes of your ashes?
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My instructions are very specific.
Dump them in the rubbish.
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