With the sad news yesterday that Bruce Willis has dementia has it made you think about dementia? There have been so many well known people diagnosed recently including actors and sportspeople.
I was talking to a friend recently and her father died of dementia as did my Mum and we both admitted we worry about getting it and keep looking out for the signs.
I have other friends of a similar age and several of them keep repeating themselves and I worry that I do this so now when I start telling them something I say “stop me if I have told you this before.” And they assure me I haven’t so maybe it is just an age thing and I am thinking too much into it.
I once put a spoonful of sugar in an opened coffee jar.
I had given up sugar around 10 years earlier.
That was in 1983ish.
= Have you ever searched, high and low, for your glasses, while wearing them?
= Have you walked into a room to do something and said, “What did I come in here for?”
= Have you ever put a movie on your player, sat down, and forgotten which movie you put on?
= Have you ever put an empty mug in a microwave?
I could add to that list, all day long. Those events had, in my life, nothing to do with dementia…just badly off-target thinking and concentration.
The Bruce Willis thing has me wondering, also, though! Bruce Lee used to be like a God, to me. In 1988, Bruce Willis changed all that, and my hero became “John McClane”, in “Die Hard” (1). I wish that this was not happening to him - I really do.
Working in a care home I see the full effects of dementia, but what’s the point of worrying, you can’t do anything about it, just live life to the full as best you can, enjoy the things that give you pleasure while you can….
One of my elderly neighbours has been diagnosed with it she is such a lovely person.
Another reason why I love saunas:
Middle aged men in Finland who take a sauna more than four times a week are two thirds less likely to develop Alzheimer’s disease or dementia over a 20 year period.
Researchers at the University of Eastern Finland followed 2,315 men aged 42-60 years for 20 years as part of the Kuopio Ischaemic Heart Disease Study. Men who reported taking a sauna 4-7 times per week were 66% less likely to receive a diagnosis of dementia than those who only sauna once a week. They were also 65% less likely to receive a diagnosis of Alzheimer’s disease.
About three years ago I got seriously ill but I survived. For quite a while I didn’t what I was doing. Dementia was discussed by the doctors not that I had any clue. I was allowed to go home with a nurse/therapist help with to help my problem. It was diagnosed as aphasia. It is still a problem for me.
Time to worry is when you have to deal with these things, not before, … if you can’t change it, why worry about it and spoil your life needelessly beforehand.
As an ex-smoker I trust I’m safe in the knowledge that cancer will get me before my brain gives out.
There’s some wisdom in this …
‘Pick your poison when young … leave the rest in the hands of Fate, Nature or your God, if you have one’.
I live with dementia every day. My husband was diagnosed about four years ago.
He doesn’t remember I’ve had a heart attack and although he knows we’ve got a different car now he doesn’t remember me having a car crash with the old one.
An entire block of his memory has gone. He can’t remember any holidays we’ve had or places we’ve been. Even going on an aeroplane for the first time - he was terrified of flying. For 40 years he ran his own business but memory of that has gone too…
He’s so isolated and lonely. He can’t join in any conversation because he doesn’t understand what people are talking about. Mostly people ignore him and that hurts me a lot. I just wish they’d make an attempt to talk to him, if only for a few minutes…
He is still so loving and loves cuddles. It’s my pleasure to take care of him but I get lonely too, not being able to have a proper conversation with him. If I didn’t see other people I would go mad.
I want to care for him for the rest of my life but don’t think I’ll be able too if/when he gets worse.
I try not to think of the future…
Tho we kinda do both with saunas - after every 20 minutes we go under a freezing cold shower. The funny thing is that when you go back in the sauna then you almost feel like you’re glowing, it’s an unusual sensation