As I get older and look back on life the thought does cross my mind as per title. I seemed to have dashed through life having fun and not spending enough time with some loved ones and smelling the roses. The last ten years of Pa’s life I missed a lot of but didn’t realize. Had a chance to spend the last Xmas with my younger brother and missed that too? Yea wouldn’t be dashing through it so much next time!
Yes Gumbud I feel that way even as it happens. I think what am I doing but it’s not easy to just switch off. At least in your case it’s because you were having fun but in my case it’s been work study or looking after and helping others as well as the general drudge of day to day life and rather a lack of fun. I find it hard to find any time to myself these days never mind seeing the wood for the trees, but then I was thinking well maybe I will look back on this time as the best of my life. Maybe there’s a sense of fulfilment about being there for others, but it’s just lost in not looking after myself enough.
But yes I wish I could go back and make better decisions on the journey of life. There is a film like that where a chap can go back and change the past, but some of the outcomes are in fact scary. I was talking to a good friend about this earlier tonight, about how if only this or that I could have had a far more exciting life and she was saying that wait, look at what happened to this or that person we know and that the grass isn’t any greener. Maybe I need to put on those red shoes…
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As Tony Abbott once said, “Shit happens”.
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perhaps it’s about balancing and consideration for others. My earlier life was all about self - I was out having fun and would only drop in on my past occasionally - I guess too we can also be spending too much time doing things for others but we see it as a calling - Christ didn’t seem to have too much time for himself but there was a man with a mission we could say. What was that biblical script that says " no one knows the time or date…??? yea stop and smell the roses. My bros died 6/7 yrs ago but he did make one memorable visit to Oz to see me - looking back now - exciting though they were we just chugged along too - now I’d at least enjoy a movie or perhaps not ?
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No, I wouldn’t want to go through it all again because that would also include the unpleasant things and the overall conditions which I couldn’t change anyway. I don’t regret most of the decisions made under the circumstances. As for some of them I wouldn’t know any better than in the past and am glad that I won’t have to take them again.
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…ah I forgot to add and change somethings too??
No I wouldnt want to experience my life again even if I could change things . I’ve had a lot of experiences and I’ve done a lot but once is enough for me . In fact if there is such a thing as reincarnation I will absolutely refuse to come back !
I would like to go back and be a kinder this time around .
I would love my parents more and be less impatient with my children their childhood went too quickly .
Our children are lent to us for such a short time a special time that is soon gone .
Where did life go ?
If I could go back & do it all again, I’d do it slightly differently. I’d spend less time sitting back smelling the roses, and more time taking risks … like I should have exaggerated my income to get a bigger mortgage to get further up the property greasy pole. No wait! I have no regrets really.
The problem with going back over one’s life is, we’re viewing it with hindsight, things that we did , looking back, and we’d change, but at the time we make a decision based on what we know/events that are happening at that time…
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and with the ‘state of mind’ we where at then - maybe a little more selfish rather than more considerate - thinking about self rather than others or is that the wrong way around?
Would I like to go back and do it all again? Not on your Nellie!
I feel like I’ve come to the end of a really long endurance run and am in a good place. Happy, content, and proud of what I’ve achieved. There have been good times and bad times, pain and sorrow, high’s and lows. How would you recognise the good times if you didn’t have some bad ones to compare them with. I don’t regret a thing that I’ve done, after all, it’s brought me to the place I’m at now, and I managed to arrive at the finish, relatively fit and healthy, but glad it’s all over and wouldn’t like to go back. Going back would be like running the course again just in case you missed something along the way and I’ve got my medal thanks. I prefer to look forward and plan my next event…
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Help folk where you can Gummy, but this life is not a rehearsal for the next…
Gosh, no chance…!
Although there are things I would love to change…changing one thing would change everything…so for me the risk would be too great so I’ll stick with what I’ve got
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Exactly foxy, plus I’m sure, like me, you are in a better position financially
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We can’t go back and change things, so don’t worry about it, just accept that it was what it was.
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Could we just go back a week do I can get the lottery numbers…oh no that would be going forward to be able to come back…Ok ignore me …confused 
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no I really would like to fix it?
Having the best woman by my side and smelling all the roses together has been and still is a wonderful feeling. Would I change anything on a purely personal basis? No, nothing.
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