Awe Tiffs my husbands daughters by his first marriage have no children and are unlikely to now he is sad that he has no grandchildren and his name dies with them .
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Same here but I aināt sad, until the clocks go back. 
Iām not sad, Muddy, as I said. I donāt think Iād be as close to my kids if they had had kids of their own. Son never found anyone to marry, though he had girl friends & Daughter couldnāt have kids after an ovarian cyst played havoc with her reproductive parts. Her partner already had a daughter from his marriage, many years ago, so he didnāt want any more any way. He has a grandchild heās never seen too.
I do have a few grandkids/greatgrandkids unofficially but that is another story. & I donāt know any of them personally.
I doubt if Iāll have any grandchildren to brag about. One of my sonās is gay (married) and the other doesnāt seem interested in finding someone and settling down, heās 38 so heās leaving it a bit late
I bet Iād be the worst boaster if I had some, Iāll have to get a dog 
Why do people need to boast? If you love the child and are happy with what they achieve, why does any other personās opinion matter? 
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It shouldnāt really, but I think a bit of boasting and bragging and hoping people are a tiny bit envious is human nature.
Itās like being a kid again āLook what Iāve got!ā
For some, itās probably a bit of an ego boost, reassuring them they are doing OK and letting others know it too
Nobody should need to do it, of course, but there we go, weāre none of us perfect, itās the life
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Maybe itās like tears of joy, when you feel so proud for a loved one, you canāt help yourself, you want the world to know
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Marciniak, those who see your tears of joy will know that a person who cares is proudā¦ the rest of the world donāt matter!
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Its not about the tears, its about not being able to control a strong emotional feeling of pride.
My niece was born with a multitude of disabilities, Long story shortā¦ aged about 13, various sporting activities/events were organised for PHAB centres
She won a 15m race, medal and certificate was awarded , she showed everyone that medal, parents were proud/happy for her, members and close friends of the family would tell people about her achievementā¦ You would have thought she had won a national title
Me I was young, to me it was a jokeā¦ People asking me and family members to relay messages of well done,ā¦Truth is most praise came out of sympathy.
Looking back the tears and pride from the family and friends had nothing to do with sympathy, they were genuinely so proud, and yes, boastful in a way.
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sorry Twink, trying to do to many things here
I misinterpreted your post youāre rightā¦the rest of the world donāt matter
Yes, genuine pride lifts the heart and it doesnāt matter about others, youāre right
I also think it depends a bit who you are boasting to. If you are boring a casual acquaintance, then youāre being a pain.
But friends and family who love you will genuinely want to hear about and share in your joy and happiness, as you would in theirs
Of course the family were proud, she did something that proved her ability to be better than expected & all that praise would have made her proud of her achievement.
When top athletes win Olympic medals they are proud to receive their medals, but coming home to the people who knew the effort they had to put in is their greatest joy. Your niece deserved the attention as much as any top athlete because she tried hard to win!