There is no way I would - and never did - I had plenty of opportunity but had respect for myself and I was amazed at the fab reaction of the boys - they really had respect too 
Cor blimey I’d give my right arm to indulge in the stuff some of my friends are indulging in - especially after reading 50 Shades of Grey - makes yer hair stand on end it really does.
How can I not envy them - they’re having a terrific time learning things about what drives them and what drives the men (and some women too!) they’re with and having a whale of a time. I’ll tell you what if I found myself single again I’d be out there in a flash scouring the internet for all those experiences.
So …should I sit up and take notice …
Your post sounds so daft to me - like a 15 year old …
And your postings on the subject thus far sounds like someone in their 80s!
See I don’t really give a flying toss about respect - respect isn’t really what I or my friends would be after nor do I really care about what others think - I think you said earlier we’re all entitled to our opinion. I am supremely indifferent as to whether you sit up and take notice (or whether you still can)
Snug in your cardie?
If you could only ‘see’ me - nothing like you describe - pretty damn well attractive is more fitting :-p
Equally if you could see me … not the sort to get many offers tbh 
Different opinions that’s all.
Well I don’t mind keeping me cardie on, as I said earlier health and medication has taken it’s toll. I never did want loads of experiences just one special person, and I think that is you too Patsy, we I think are the lucky ones. Nothing would get me back out there dating nowadays. Respect means a lot to me and mine.
As for 50 shades how anyone got past the first few badly written pages I don’t understand, very amateurish writing IMO
Exactly - that’s all it is …
Noted… But I might add that there is a saying in the medical field that when you are intimate with someone, you are intimate with everyone they have slept with for the past 10 years! So you may be clean… and your anticipated partner may have no reason to think they can be infected, but was his past partner faithful? Maybe she slept around behind his back… One never knows. So I really believe it prudent to be tested. My feeling is that if you have given a new relationship lots of time and thought… what’s a week or so for test results.
And I for one don’t advocate “bed hopping” That sounds boring and too much like work at my age… I wouldn’t have the energy or inclination. BUT having been alone suddenly after the death of a spouse, I would have to agree… Julie and Patsy are some of the lucky ones. Being alone after a long loving marriage is beyond horrible… but grief wears off and living continues… I like being in a monogamous relationship and the need for that is overwhelming… as I said… never say never… It can happen to anyone.
Baxter 8 why wait till your single to have fun same as your friends have,get stuck in and have these experiences with your hubby ,
I agree - that’s exactly what they should do
Hubs and I have been together a ‘long’ time - each faithful to the other - but, in the scenario you describe - absolutely yes …
I don’t know tbh, I haven’t even picked up the book, but good for you for giving it a try.
I don’t somehow think anyone believe it was going to be a work of art and a huge contribution to English literature.
Phrases like “one life, live it” come to mind - not something I’ve ever said or thought, but I’ve seen a huge number of men putting this is in their dating profiles.
You are of course quite right about the number of people - both men and women - willing to “put themselves around” - but PLEASE don’t tar every single woman with same brush…is a bit like believing everything you read in a sleazy magazine or paper - incredibly common and ignorant.
A laughingly bigoted view! :shock::shock::shock:
If you ‘really’ think I mean ‘every’ single woman - you’re as daft as I am ! :-p
Rumpy-Pumpy is for the young, and uneducated, as for disease, don’t take the risk, who wants BIRD flu.
Very pleased to hear that Pats. The phrase “Respectable Married Woman” should also be used for single women. 
I too am a ‘very respectable Single Woman’…Don’t really have much chance to be otherwise these days 
Oh dear - OK then …:-p
Spittie - on form as usual :-p
I think it’s sad these days anyone with a moral code stricter than the “norm” is considered bigoted. We will eventually reap what we sow I think and these diseases are the tip of the iceberg. Young and old need to be more careful.