@Morticia - I hope this works. AnnieS said that she saw them, so it must’ve worked, last night, after all. I’ve uploaded them again, anyway.
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Goodness … and you’ve four wardrobes full. Tell me you wear them.
What about ties? Do you collect them too?
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They’re essentially only a collection, but I do wear around half a dozen of them, for special occasions, only (those are strange occasions, too). Mostly, the white and some of the Silvers, and one black one.
When you buy the shirts, you get a tie with every one, these days, so…I have a lot of the matching ties, still, but I very rarely wear a tie. That collection is one of the things that, within me, actually died and, right now, they mean close to nothing to me.
I’m hoping that’s another thing that will change with the psychotherapy that I begin on May 5th (Behavioural Activation).
That’s quite soon … I hope all goes well for you. You sound positive to me and that has to be a big step in the right direction.
Next question … 
… do you like cuff links. I’ve always liked them but I’m not sure chaps wear them anymore.
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I’ve learned to love cuff links, when they look really classy and expensive and I’ve got some on a few of the special shirts. Some cuffs don’t work properly with them, though. There’s a time and place for them and they can seriously nicely set off a shirt’s existing good looks. They also kinda “finish” a look, at times, I think.
I agree … then there’s tie pins but I’ve always liked cuff links better.
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Some tie pins work, but others tend to leave some permanent marks on the ties, so you have to be careful with them. A button-on tie chain is a good idea and serves the same purpose, but leaves no marks. They look just about as good, too.
Ah … I’d never though that through. A tie pin could ruin a beautiful tie then so has to be a no no.
What do you go for in cuff links …gold? silver? Or onyx and other semi precious stones
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My cuff links? Gold? No. Silver? No. Stainless Steel?..yeah. Stainless steel. Okay, so I’m cheap!
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What? No platinum ! 
… just teasing you.
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I’m not sure whether anyone has already mentioned this, but that grey shirt between the two purple ones is making me feel like reaching into the photo to move it.
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is there a medallion too perchance?
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Ha-Ha-Ha! Amazing! Others have said that! The wardrobe that that was supposed to go into was looking a bit over-filled, for a very short while. I decided to do a lot of shifting around and rearranging of those (The Best Of The Best Of The Best, I call those gunmetal ones).
So, just for that afternoon, the last of the gunmetals was put in with the brighter coloured ones while I did the removal of 2 others from the final storage wardrobe (not shown) for them. So, I perched it where you see it (fresh off the huge ironing board) half way along the coloured ones while I made the room. Then, I transferred it to where it belonged, in among the others identical to it. So, that coloured set is now nothing but colours, with no gunmetal grey among them! Thanks, for making me smile…that’s so difficult to do! 
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I was fresh out of medallions - I’d emptied my Piggy Bank to buy stainless steel designer cuff links!
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Thank you! 
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Hi
Cufflinks , I have a collection, always wore them at work.
I had fun ones, one set had I am very handsome on one, the other said These are not my cufflinks.
Another set where in the shape of chrome taps, one said hot and the other one said cold.
They where in the bedroom, of 14 sets 9 have been assessed as beyond economical repair.
I used to spend a lot of time in Court or before a Judge in Chambers, so I used to have to dress smartly.
Always take photos of any good stuff you have and keep them in the Cloud.
Insurance companies tend to value contents by postcode and you have to prove the value of things.
They are not very generous at all.
I had downsized massively and they were surprised I had photos of very expensive clothing, clearly Identifiable labels, in situ in my wardrobes, before the fire.
I also had photos of me wearing them,including some take by the media.
Something I had learnt to do from the barrister lady I had dated after my divorce.
Not something I would even dreamt of doing before I met her.
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That’s actually very wise, SF! Thanks, for that!
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PROGRESS UPDATE: For a few months, now, I’ve noticed things and wondered about them. I’m starting to find out that they are, in fact, some small signs of progress.
1. Occasionally, I have actually found myself laughing at something, during the past 4-6 months. When I asked ChatGPT about the possibility of that meaning that there is one very thin sliver of connection to the reward centre of my brain, he said, “So even rare laughter counts—your brain is briefly reconnecting with pleasure and reward pathways, which is huge when anhedonia is present. You’ve literally “tasted” your reward system working again, even if only for a few seconds.” So, effectively, on those rare occasions when I find myself laughing, quite spontaneously, at something (it hardly matters what), THE ANHEDONIA ILLNESS MUST’VE BEEN CAUGHT NAPPING for just a tiny amount of time. It’s really not much, but it’s PROGRESS!
2. My last friend and I (we lived 40 miles apart and would never have met) were doing what we called “parallel watching” of movies…we’d be talking on the phone and arrange which film and how long to watch…then, watch half an hour of a movie, and be back on the phone. When my friend occasionally said, “Which film would you rather watch?”, I’d choose one film sooner than another. ChatGPT pointed out to me (and, I didn’t even notice or know this) that, when I expressed a preference of one film over another, I was then, also, accessing my reward centre in the brain. THE ANHEDONIA ILLNESS MUST’VE BEEN CAUGHT NAPPING THEN, TOO, or I wouldn’t’ve had a preference!
3. After leaving the psychiatric hospital, last year, I never expected that I would be able to muster interest enough to do even ONE of the late Summer evening walks that I’d been doing for 45 years, so I dismissed the idea, for a while. Then, to my own shock, I just went out, on 9 different warm Summer evenings, and did NINE of those very same walks. THE ANHEDONIA ILLNESS MUST’VE BEEN CAUGHT NAPPING THEN, TOO!
It might not look like much on a screen, but those 3 things are actually good signs. I hope to build on those, maybe, later this year!
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Just posted this Ian, give it a whirl?