I never fly off the handle in such situations, just withdraw instead. Just give it a few days (or weeks!) away from them. Life is too short for toxic friendships.
I feel exactly the same. Close relationships need patience, compassion and understanding. Respecting boundaries is a must in building trust.
Get a dog they are more tactful and never take umbrage .
Solid friendships usually withstand such tests, so I wouldn’t get too upset about it Dianne. 
Very true. 
Especially a Longdog!! :-):-)
You reacted very badly to being hurt, I think quite a few of us have done that at times.
Now, if I was to do that constantly, I wouldn’t expect people to be sympathetic or understanding of my behaviour, I would take responsibility and not offload it on to my friend, I would look inwardly also if it was consistently bad, I would probably seek professional counselling, there are underlying issues associated with blowing ones fuse, also trigger points that start everything in motion, before anyone can do the above, They first need to admit they have a problem and not blame others for the outburst…imo.
I would try not to think of my own feeling but why my friend reacted out of character and what might be troubling them.
Then I would say to the friend that I was surprised when they 'saidsuchandsuch ’ and was anything bothering them and was it something I had done or said.
I don’t have ‘proper friends’ these days just casuals I can’t be doing with the hassle. I lost my best friend when her marriage broke up and she disappeared with another man it was like a bereavement 
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Hasn’t happened to us for years. Last time, over ten years past, I just got even.
:-p:-p
I’m a great believer of knowing where you stand.
If somebody did the dirty on me I wouldn’t be offended, I’m too world weary for that, I would just cut them dead…like forever, despite what they might say in the future.
If I saw them on fire, I would simply walk the other way.
Well I’m not going to be the one to give the response that statement is begging for. 
Taken out of context…will say no more on the matter.
Makes note in diary —
Every situation is different.
The people involved may be different, the cause of the argument different and how you are feeling at the time even, so I don’t see how anyone can pre-judge what they would say and do with any accuracy.
You say ‘Us’ Does that mean you are two different people or do you share all your hurts with someone else?
A lot would depend on how deeply I was hurt and whether or not I believed it to be intentional. A minor slight may just be thoughtlessness and can be shaken off in a heartbeat. An intentional barb needs to be investigated and reasons given - if not at the time then very soon after so it does not fester.
However - I never do ‘fly off the handle’ - I become very coldly polite.
It hurts if its someone you care for though .
Very true!
Perhaps he was including his wife, Carol??