Nor me either. I’ve never had a problem being girlfriendless, far from it, and once married I am a one-lady type of fella.
Smiling here at a memory , I think I’ve mentioned before on the old site .
I met three different men on Internet dating , I arranged to meet each one in a local pub , on the third date I got odd looks from the landlord who had seen me come in with 3 different faces in about 10 days , I think he thought I was an ole whore 
I stopped Internet dating when a solicitor / lawyer I knew told me she was working on a case of a lady who was badly injured by a man she met online , he hit her over the head with a bat while sleeping . Awful isn’t it . I never knew the outcome of the case but it made me think twice. 
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Yes, there are people who use dating sites as a way to lure “victims” -“prey”
On line dating can be a scary thing to do.
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I was helping my daughter when she expressed that she wanted to see what was out there. 
Quickly, we’ve found out that it was populated with scammers galore, dirty b…ds sending inappropriate content. As well as the ones she might have been interested in dating, who thought they were bigger than their breeches. If you know what I mean.
Others, fell into the scammers categories as they wanted a quick wedding, last as long as needed for them receiving a citizenship and then a quicky divorce!
Man! It was eye opening for what I could look forward to in the eventuality that I might find myself a widow, which is what happened now. Daughter has given them a by now and hoping when it’s destined it’ll happen. You know, you’re no longer looking for someone and your soulmate shows up! Yup…
However, having seen what daughter went through, I’m informed as to not risk it for a biscuit lol.
A friend I’ve known for over 40 years as always been jealous of what I ended up having. However, it was misplaced as she was looking for a rich man who could have given her the house she was looking for. Once, the house would have been built to the extremes she wanted, she would have walked away from the marriage.
Bottom line, she wanted to marry for assets NOT for love and as she’d been abused by her brothers until they turned 18, got married and moved away from home, she never wanted children.
She suffered again, when her father extended the house to add a home for her older brother and she finally had to move away. Long-story-short, I married for love and creating a family and a happy future. She married and divorced 3 times because the house never materialised.
Until recently, she was still looking at POF (Plenty of Fish dating site), the worst for bots and scammers (according to online reviews, anyway). Yesterday, she told me that she’s getting rid of WhatsApp as she was getting too many dating hoodlums (her words lol).
There you go, two situations with a girl in her 30s now, who’s seen one ugly side of it. Myself, who saw how bad it could be and the experience of my friend who’s a year younger than me, and sge still did it for the wrong reasons.
As @Bretrick said, it’s very much selling yourself and frankly I’d go as far to say that it’s a free place without the 1-900-babes costs.
You need real face-to-face meeting and get to know the person in real life. Online, who knows what you’re getting!
However, the game of love is a game of chance. You encounter what you think is the love of your life and you say yes. Therefore, you’re taking a chance in believing in a happy forever after future.
Overall, I’ve no regrets whatsoever but things didn’t quite turn out the way I expected or hoped. I’m weary now to jump back into the dating game and going through the same after the first five years.
If really there’s a new destiny for me, it’ll happen when it’ll happen and it’ll be in real life.
Thanks!
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It’s a jungle out there for sure. Best to stay way from online dating and seek face to face contact through living life.
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Apart from the obvious dangers (getting scammed/meeting a loony) keep in mind that most dating sites - especially the larger ones - make a lot of money from selling your data, including your private messages! Imagine a future client or employer deciding to buy your info! 
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It occurs to me this dating stuff, online allows two folks who are happy in their own company to unite, nowt to do with opposites attract 
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yes LD we have heard this story many many manyzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzerhm times??
Heard … HEARD?? I didn’t know typed words emitted sounds 
You should place those you do not wish to read about on “ignore content” 
One of my young friends is out there doing online dating, he says it’s really hard working out the etiquette
He’s trying Bumble at the moment, and the rules there are that only the woman can make the first move, initial contact
How it works is that peoples profiles come up and if it’s someone you’re interested in, you swipe right
If they’ve swiped right on you too, a match is created, but only the woman can take it further and make contact. If they don’t, the match is just cancelled after 24 hours
It has an option for just making friends rather than romance too
He’s seen a lady on there that he met in another site and although they didn’t click romantically they’ve stayed friends and email, message each other
But he doesn’t like to mention her Bumble profile!
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This can be very frustrating and sad for guys. He swipes right and never gets a match?
Heartbreaking really.
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Yes, it probably is, but what happened to good old fashioned tried-n-tested mingling? I know I’m old and probably well out of touch, but in my dating days, mingling was a great way of meeting friends of both sexes. From night spots to pubs and even some clubs proved excellent places to meet people.
When I owned and ran a band of like minded musicians, we were always meeting new people and a small handful are still friends who keep in touch, but alas, age has culled some of them 
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People have forgotten the art of mingling, and it is an art.
Always the best way to meet people.
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I first saw Mrs Fox in a pub, she was with her boyfriend at the time…He looked like a miserable sod and I made her laugh. I saw her walking down the street one evening some days later and pulled over in my motor and asked if she would like to accompany me to a Chinese restaurant, she answered yes and climbed in…The rest is history… 
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I think so too…my swiping is appalling, I dread to think what might happen!
Same here. Never done it, never will. 
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ive never used a dating site as such but thru forums, over time you get to know each other basically… ive met two ladies one was really nice but the other, erm wasnt… but you get to a time in your life when you only need a pal… now that may well be a lady, but ladies need to look out some guys want a maid not a mate…
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Inhairnet???- I always get mine twisted up with me ponys tail?
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you can have her - [hair] I wait fir the net one!!
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