There was quite a struggle in my life,
I was diagnosed with Kidney failure at 33, was on dialysis for next 6 years, kidney transplant done last year in August.
I have started thinking a lot about future & I want to live my life to the fullest.
I moved to UK 13 years ago for my MBA. I worked in the banking industry before my kidney diagnosis. I left the 9 to 5 industry after I started dialysis, now I drive taxi for living.
I have got tremendous respect for older people. There is so much to learn from them & that is why I am here, I am here for advise.
Its like I am about to embark on a journey and asking for advise from someone who has already been on that journey. ( advise on things like, pitfalls, traps, mistakes and lot more between the age 40 & 50)
Please do not get offended I m 40 and this group is for above 50 but it will be too late if I join when I am 50. I want to start âputting things rightâ now.
I will leave this group if you say so after I get replies from you. Thank you.
Sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I hope you find the advice youâre looking for here.
I hope you enjoy the forum for other stuff too.
My advice to my younger self would be to try to go easier on myself. Life is hard enough without the self criticism. That might not apply to you. But thatâs the advice I would give my younger self.
Hi Seeker, and welcome to OFC. We donât care what age you are (well, apart from being jealous of your youth of course )
When I was around your age, I went on a massive diet and lost 3.5 stone, started going to the gym regularly, and hadnât felt so fit and healthy for years. I kept it up for around 3 years, but then I needed major surgery, had to give up the gym for a while, the weight crept back on, and before long I was back to my old self. So my advice to my younger self would be: donât let obstacles knock you off course, donât get complacent, look after yourself, keep yourself fit and keep the weight off. Because then I probably wouldnât have the trouble with my knees and back that I do now.
Sounds like youâve been through a lot to get where you are now, and maybe my advice doesnât quite fit your situation. But I would definitely say make a promise to yourself now to keep yourself fit and healthy - eat well, exercise regularly, and keep it up. Your 70 year old self will thank you
Hi Seeker and welcome. I would have advised my 40 year old self to listen more to my 20 year old self. I was much wiser, more tolerant and kinder then than I am now.
Hello Seeker and welcome to the forum.
My advice for right now would be to try and get far away from driving a taxi. With a kidney transplant and the anti rejection drugs probably needed to keep it place, the last thing you need is an infection from a fare paying passenger you are carrying.
As for further advice for age 41 and above, I will have to think about that and reply later.
My advice would be: Seize on opportunities that open up for you because they are limited in number. Do not wait for the ideal one and get stuck but also accept the second best and proceed.
Welcome Seeker to this wonderful group.
As others have already said, health is the most important thing in anybodyâs life.
I donât know what class of taxi you drive as many people call themselves âTaxiâ drivers from Uber to private hire.
I could call myself a real taxicab driver having passed the knowledge of London in 1962, and gained my badge and bill. Retired now of course after 45 years⊠Second best job in the world. The first being retired.
My advice to you would be, when without a job in the cab, get out of the cab and if you can, keep moving. Talk to the other drivers if on a rank.
Exercise and a healthy diet, but I expect you already realise this. Watch your weight.
There is no advice at 40 that I can think would be âin stoneâ. Someone, somewhere, must have said that the only thing that doesnât change is change itself. I made the best decisions all through life (Iâm 74 now) but I see that it was all for nought. I nurtured myself and my family with the assurance that things would be as they were and even as I predicted they would be. But alas âŠ! I can take of myself but I no longer have anything to say for the future of my children and the world theyâve inherited.
Come of it, if youâre posting on here youâre over the hill! Otherwise youâd be off sending pics of your undies on Whatapp or poaching eggs in a ladle on TikTok
Iâm 64 and âcourse thatâs old, âbloody lucky to have lived this longâ as my granny used to say when people moaned about getting old
And us old folk do love to talk about the past and give unsolicitated advice, donât we?
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