Definitely, attitude plays a big part in our lives and health.
Your son showed early on what path his life would take. Caring and sharing.
Help save a family of 3 that fell through the ice in their car. It was MANY years ago but I did get a Red Cross rescuer award.
5 Likes
Forgiving my father!
Dumping the venom of my tiresome decades of telling people how bad he was, with me, or towards me. Two years ago, I had a dream that was every bit as clear as this monitor screen. It was my dad, in a dark two-piece suit and a pale shirt. I initiated a hug between usā¦a thing we never did. That was no dream!
I woke up, later that day, and decided Iād forgive my dad, knowing all the bad stuff heād been through and that he was, as was/am I, a human with human weaknesses.
Forgiving him took a load off one of his shoulders, and a load off one of mine.
1 Like
Carrying such a burden for many years would have had a very negative impact on you.
Holding on to negative stuff is a dead end street.
So pleased that you made the decision to forgive your father. Now you can move on so much lighter in mind and spirit.
1 Like
Its probably better if forgiveness is a progressive thing, not an immediate cognitive process, its possible to question immediate change of perception further down the line.
2 Likes
Pleased for you Ian 
2 Likes
Other than my 2 sons ā¦one lead me a merry dance 
I guess it has to be surviving lockdown while grieving ā¦alone .
Iām made of strong stuff l sold everything maybe a little rash, the houses the furniture ,cars ,everything ā¦but at the time it seemed right .
It all worked out well , now Iāve a brand new lifeā¦
Iāve still my memories the good ones .
Can recommend it .
1 Like
Being a good daughter,mother / mother-in-law and grandma.
Their words also.
1 Like
I had thought of the forgiving thing for a long, long time, having seen what medical worries did to my own general behaviour and attitude, and thereby understanding my fatherās mental state/s far more. So, the dream gave me a good old blast from Creationās starter pistol.
1 Like
Thatās a tough one! Iād say that Iām most proud of taking a leap of faith and moving across the country to pursue my passions. Itās been a wild ride, but totally worth it!
1 Like
I agree. Makes me feel humble, and lucky with my lot.
1 Like
erm, passion?
Thereās always something else to accomplish.
1 Like
I think it must be caring for my late Mum. My Dad died in 2007 aged 85. He and Mum both managed pretty well but when he developed a terminal illness I stepped in and did all the hospital runs (and there were many 60 mile round trips). Mum was also deteriorating and needed a lot of help. After Dad died I used to go over several times a week and then bring her to mine from Fri afternoon to Monday every weekend. I did all her paperwork, phone calls, hospital trips, GP trips, chiropodist, hairdresser, shopping etc. I arranged for a lady to go in and clean for her and later she needed carers every morning.
I donāt honestly know where the years went but I did this for 13 years until Mum was unsafe at home as she developed dementia. She went into care for the last 3 years of her life but I visited her every other day, had lunch with her and took her out in the car or wheelchair. She passed away aged nearly 97 listening to her favourite Irish music, in her best nightie, wearing her favourite perfume and tucked up warm and cozy which was exactly what she hoped for.
1 Like
Choking up the system 
1 Like
I am sure your mum appreciated all the love you invested in her.
To spend so much time with her showed you cared immensely for her and also shows your appreciation for your mum raising you and all she did you as well. 
1 Like
Thank you Bretrick. She told me many, many times that she didnāt know how she would have managed without me. I know she would have done the same for me if I was ever ill or bedridden.
1 Like