Things must have been tough, for some folks at a certain moment in time, but they come out of them, and move on. Is it good to remember those times, and move on. or, forget them Carte Blanche?
Carte Blanche and Bill Posters they are always getting picked on.
I was at school with Geraldine Blanche. She sat in front of me, I dipped her pigtails in the inkwell, she was not pleased. I didn’t know she had a brother Carte.
I don’t think they do come out of them and move on generally unless they find a way to process the event in a healthy way. I think that’s relatively rare.
It may look like successful people are handling things for a time. People can hold it together for some time before they fall apart.
That’s why there are so many successful people who self-sabotage and fall apart just when life seems to be going really well for them.
It isn’t that success makes people self-destruct. There are some successful people who haven’t done that. It’s that some people held it together long enough to become successful but couldn’t hold it together forever.
I don’t think either is a good strategy depending on what it means to "remember those times’ If it’s a traumatic event, it’s hard to forget anyway. I think it helps to try to look at it in a different perspective, see if it has anything to learn from it and then deal with it as best you can, seeking help if need be.
“Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future.”
John F. Kennedy
“Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.”
But both JFK and Buddha were men.
“You should never view your challenges as a disadvantage. Instead, it’s important for you to understand that your experience facing and overcoming adversity is actually one of your biggest advantages
“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’”**
Perhaps another well-known saying is also quite relevant:
“What doesn’t kill me makes me stronger”.
I knew this saying from the past but never bothered to find the origins of it, thanks to a search the following explanation was found several times:
The German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche’s original line was “Was mich nicht umbringt macht mich stärker." The saying comes from the “Maxims and Arrows” section of Nietzsche’s book, Twilight of the the Idols (1888). It is usually translated into English as “what does not kill me makes me stronger.”
More information for that never-ending and life-long learning curve, although what I am going to do with all this information remains a total mystery!
Move on, positive or negative remembrances can drag you backwards …