Did anybody see the programme last night about these sickos?
They were all very high profile and got away with it because nobody said anything. I have a dilemma. In the late 70s/early 80s I worked for a very high profile person (in the Midlands anyway) who was the Chair of this that and the other. Involved with charities and sporting associations, Chamber of Commerce etc. He was also friendly with some famous names and I would regularly take calls from them.
Remember I was young and quite naive and really couldn’t afford to lose my job so I kept quiet but even after all these years it makes me feel quite sick how he behaved around me. He used to play with himself with his hand down his trousers while he was on the phone to clients and I didn’t know what to do. I just sat there waiting for the call to end so I could get on with my work and looked the other way. Then I decided I wouldn’t put up with it so I used to stick a note in front of him saying I had gone to get on with my work and to buzz me when the call had finished. He didn’t like that and used to come into my office maybe 20 minutes later with a face like thunder.
Sometimes I had to go to meetings with him and he would pull over in the car in a quiet road and switch the engine off and just sit there staring straight ahead and I would be petrified that he was going to pounce on me. It was awful but I suppose it was him trying to play mind games with me.
Another time he was in the process of buying yet another factory and I had to stay late to ensure the paperwork was ready for the morning. He hovered over me the whole time, there was nobody else around and, again, I felt he was going to pounce. Eventually he went into his own office and When I finished it I walked through to his office with it and, as usual, he was on the phone so I just left it in front of him and waved goodbye. I had been shaking with fear the whole time I was typing it up.
The next morning he came blustering in and told me thanks to me he had lost out on the factory purchase because I had messed up the paperwork! I had typed in the price he was offering in figures but he said I should also have put it in in words. I didn’t believe that for a minute but I do believe he had planned to come on to me that evening but I outsmarted him.
He then totally blanked me and even though I was his Secretary I also worked for another Director and from then on I only worked for him. Then I left work to have my first child and had nothing more to do with him.
I know he is still alive but in his 80s and a google search tells me he is still heavily involved with high profile associations etc. After watching that programme last night it brought it all home and I really want to report him now but I want to do it anonymously. Is this possible? I cannot believe that I was the only person who saw this side of him.
I have always wanted to report him but I never did because I never told my OH anything about this.
Too right I would “OUT” this vile creature . How awful and horrible for you .
I know this feeling because I was 15 when I worked for a vile creature who must have been a paedophile because of the things he talked to me about . I didnt know these things were wrong I just thought he was a dirty old man . I left his employment but have never forgotten how he tried to abuse the 15 year old me
What outcome would you be hoping for? I don’t mean just as a consequence of your reporting him, but what would you want to see happening to him in general?
Not sure if you would get very far by reporting hm now. Unless there is positive proof that he did more than make you uncomfortable. From your account, he didn’t actually sexually assault you. I suppose that if there were others who had been sexually assaulted by him, there might be a chance by force of numbers that he should be looked at. But these offences are notoriously difficult to prove after so long, and whilst he may well have been creepy in the extreme, I can’t see the police or the cps taking up a case against hm on the evidence of your statement as is. Mind I am no expert on this subject and my statement is merely my own thoughts.
I didn’t see the programme but the one that saddened me the most when I heard about them was Hall, his infectious laughter on Its a knockout and the international ones were what made them worth watching.
Flower I feel for you on this one. I had incidences which happened to me when I was a teen, but in those days wouldn’t have been worth reporting and I didn’t know their names so couldn’t even report them now. I think if I did know their names I would report them for the sake of others. It might be worth you contacting Crime Stoppers you can do that anonymously:
I think I would like him to freeze if the Police knocked on his door. He would be reeling off all the organisations he is and has been part of and name dropping like mad.
I would like people to know he is not the person he pretends to be.
I would like other women to come forward because I cannot imagine I was the only girl he did this to.
Flower, here’s what I would do, and I’m willing to bet you’re not the only woman whose memory has been nudged by this programme.
I would write a good old fashioned letter ~ this is important because you must keep a copy, and it can’t be accidentally deleted, it has to be filed ~ and I would say more or less exactly what you’ve told us here.
Tell them you were so moved by the programme that even after all these years the memories are disturbing and you feel you must speak out now or never.
Print his name in large capitals!
You never know, they might be interested in doing a follow-up programme …
