What a terrible situation Mart, one of the reasons why Mrs Fox and myself refused to go to hospital when we both had covid. We sort of knew that one or both of us wouldn’t come out alive.
What a world this is becoming when you can’t make your own decisions concerning your health and mobility.
Mrs Fox spent most of her working life in nursing and care homes and has seen this situation many times, where the family are overruled by the medical profession.
You are between a rock and a hard place Mart, and I do hope that you can resolve this situation and once again be together at home without the unwanted or needed interference.
Best of luck…
Man hug…
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Thanks Bob - Appreciated. 
We will keep trying to convince them that we are still self sufficient. 
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I have just been told that Mrs mart will be brought home today via hospital transport. A quick whip round to make sure the place looks ship-shape.
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Yes, there is a song to suit every occasion.
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Mart, you need to be very,very careful with Social Services.
I have some detailed knowledge of the ins and outs of things due to my personal situation.
I live on a hospital bed with a forced air mattress in my living room.
I pay for my own carers, expensive, but vastly better and cheaper than getting Social Services involved.
Best of luck.
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Thanks swimmy. Mrs m came home this evening without seeing anyone from that department again but they might do a follow up. Well-intentioned I’m sure but I’m also sure we can manage ourselves as always. Play it all by ear I suppose.
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Great stuff Mart…Glad to hear that Mrs Mart is at home.
I’m sure you will do a great job as chief cook and bottle washer…
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Yes, that will be me for the next few days. I hope some peaceful hours of sleep will do some good. There are many good aspects of being in hospital but a decent night’s sleep isn’t one of them.
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Is that one of those that inflates/deflates different areas of the mattress to prevent bed sores?
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A fraught time. I thought it necessary to phone 111 yesterday about Mrs m’s condition. Her lungs seemed just as bad as when she was taken into hospital more than two weeks ago. I just couldn’t stand by and do nothing. The Ambulance crew came and checked her over and the vital signs were OK. The episode gradually subsided but going back into hospital was a close-run thing. A good job it didn’t happen because breathing is not bad this morning …providing she doesn’t try to talk, which sets off the cough again.
Some of what has to be done is keep her calm and try to impress on family and visitors that she must not converse. This is so difficult for her because she is ordinarily everyone’s comfort, organiser and mentor. She likes to do everything she can for everyone and this involves a lot of talking. Trying to convince her that she must take a back seat for a while isn’t easy. When I insist, I feel like I’m being controlling but I’m sure I need to be firm, at least for a while. She sometimes gets tearful and I have to tell her to stop that and be calm. Staying calm helps quite a bit.
What I need to try and avoid is making family and visitors feel they can’t stay with her. I explained to our two sons what happened yesterday and they more or less gave her a hug and left. I’ve got to put that right. People can stay and talk but need to discourage her saying much in return because it will undoubtably set off that awful deep cough when she tries. Those lungs need all the rest they can get.
My bleeding is back a little this morning but I’m not going to worry about it too much. I’ll mention it to the Oncologist during next Monday’s face to face appointment. That’s another thing. Mrs m says she is coming with me. I’ve told her she can’t. I hope she will settle to the fact that she is not well enough to be going anywhere.
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Such a worry for you Mart. But good news that Mrs M’s breathing is better today.
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Sorry for the delay Mart, only just seen this.
The Hospital bed is on permanent loan from the NHS, they are known as Profile Beds, loads of different positions you can adjust yourself with a press of a button to help you breath or stop your legs swelling.
They make sleeping so much easier.
The Air Mattress is a multicell thing,it moves parts of me which are prone to pressure sores, and you don’t want a pressure sore, no matter how small, they can go very nasty very quickly.
Mine is for high risk people like me, loads of individual cells with sensors.
Great things, but dangerous in case of overheating and a serious fire risk, no heated blankets etc.
I have an alarm which goes off if I fall, but also if I stop moving.
Mrs Mart may not need such things, but very helpful if you live on your own or if you, as her carer, where to be taken ill suddenly…
I think you are both doing an absolutely fantastic job, all credit to the pair of you.
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Having read through some of this thread @mart , I hope that you don’t mind me commenting on here. You, sir, are a one in a million and I can’t help but feel that your perpetual resilience is a lesson to us all.
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Perhaps not so technical but our hospital changes the standard hospital bed mattress to one similar to your own for patients who are going to be on the ward for more than a few days. I had one last time and Mrs m’s mattress was similar. Not a complaint but they do make a noise if people change position. Get a few people doing it at the same time and it’s well noisy.
@swimfeeders @Dextrous63. Thanks for the kind words. I don’t feel I’m doing all that well sometimes and I expect a lot of us are coping with the bad situations equally well but just suffer more in silence than me. All best wishes to those people.
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Hi Mart
Both you and Mrs Mart are doing incredibly well, absolutely nothing for either of you to worry about.
Please don’t worry about talking about things, it is inspirational for so many.
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The GP referred us both to A&E on Tuesday and both of us were admitted to the wards. I’m home but Mrs m is still there.
Goodness Mart … can I give you a hug? Would you mind one?
And another for your good lady wife
So sorry to hear that Mart, I hope you both get the best of care and are doing well. My thoughts are with you and Mrs Mart…
All the best mate…
I’m sure that every member of the forum will be sending best wishes for a good outcome…
My very best wishes to you and your dear wife, Mart.
Thinking of you both. xx