Lack of Manners & Social Graces

[Muddy]

@paula

I agree manners should be taught at home, not left to teachers

They shouldn’t but if children live with mannerless parents from whom do they learn?
That is the trouble social graces once common in every home are no longer taught.
So many children don’t know how to conduct themselves ,while this doesn’t make them better or worse as people it doesn’t help.We live in an increasingly crowded society in order to get along its people that people observe the unwritten rules of good manners .

[Muddy]

@pauline3

ood manners have much to do with emotions.

To make them ring true.one must feel them, not merely exhibit them.=Amy Vanderbilt

One doesn’t need to be emotionally attached to be civil and polite .

[pauline3]

@Muddy

@pauline3

ood manners have much to do with emotions.

To make them ring true.one must feel them, not merely exhibit them.=Amy Vanderbilt

One doesn’t need to be emotionally attached to be civil and polite .

Then I will agree to disagree.

Manners are felt not just exhibited.

[Muddy]

@Baz46

Surely teachers are there to teach academically? It is not for them to teach pupils manners or how to behave. That is where parents fall short in the way they bring up their children and lack of parental responsibility has a lot to do with what’s going wrong with some young people nowadays I reckon.
Not all are like that though, I expect there are more well-behaved youngsters than there are those
who lack good manners.

In theory yes.
In practise how do they teach if some of the class is behaving in a bad mannered disruptive manner?
It only takes one to disrupt a class.

[Baz46]

@Muddy

@Baz46

Surely teachers are there to teach academically? It is not for them to teach pupils manners or how to behave. That is where parents fall short in the way they bring up their children and lack of parental responsibility has a lot to do with what’s going wrong with some young people nowadays I reckon.
Not all are like that though, I expect there are more well-behaved youngsters than there are those
who lack good manners.

In theory yes.
In practise how do they teach if some of the class is behaving in a bad mannered disruptive manner?
It only takes one to disrupt a class.

Two words cover the remedy for those who disrupt the learning of others:
Zero Tolerance

One pupil misbehaves and if not reprimanded in the correct way and that behaviour stopped, others may follow. Stop that one pupil immediately and it’s a lesson (excuse the pun) to others who may follow.

[swimfeeders]

Hi

That costs money, which we refuse to spend.

[summer]

We should lead by example…my kids are well mannered because I am. They don’t drop litter because I don’t and they know to take it home…they don’t use foul language because they know its not acceptable…I could go on but you get my drift.

[Baz46]

@summer

We should lead by example…my kids are well mannered because I am. They don’t drop litter because I don’t and they know to take it home…they don’t use foul language because they know its not acceptable…I could go on but you get my drift.

Exactly, it’s not acceptable and if that was the case in dealing with bad behaviour in schools and elsewhere, and it was strictly enforced, society would be better for it.

[swimfeeders]

Hi

Unfortunately not all todays parents are like you Summer.

[summer]

Actually Swims I know you have had some bad experiences but I have to admit most the kids I know aren’t bad kids and my pals are just like me…we all try our best but there have always been good and bad in society…thats nothing new.

[swimfeeders]

Hi

I am fine with kids, the problem is not them but their parents.

I have contact with Sabinas two, who I have known since they were very young toddlers, baby sitting for them for years.

They are both now full of hormones and difficult, but still good kids.

Millie, aged six, is one of my helpers daughters.

She is very, very, funny and we have great fun.

You can see her brain working, how do I get an ice cream from Ian without Mum knowing?

I can always tell when Mum has said no to something.

She gets the vac out and dusts to earn money to buy it herself.

She has learnt the concept of working and saving up to buy something.

I am fine with that.