There are so many people one comes across in real life or via the internet who get extremely jealous of other people. It could be regarding a relationship- financial- or plain ownership. I just don’t get why they are, In my opinion if you want something you work hard at getting it whatever it may be.
A typical personal example is when Sue and I purchased our first house. We worked many jobs and saved hard to be able to afford it. All or should I say most of my so called friends could only afford to rent, which is fair enough, but to start saying about the purchase jealousy came to the fore.
Have you met a really jealous person and tried to find out why even via the internet? or are you or have been one yourself? I think most people are at one time in their lives and try and ridicule those they are jealous of.
Not, directly, answering your question, but, if you are very successful, you have to expect the less successful to try and rationalise your success, versus their lack of success.
It might be natural for them to find, and point out, that you had “advantages”.
It’s easier, for them, to live with that.
Then again, if you keep broadcasting your success, aren’t you looking for a response, as well?
It’s a common fault that if you own your own home, others (who don’t) seem to think you were either born into wealth or acquired it in some way not to do with hard graft!
Found it better to worry about what you yourself are doing, not what anyone else is, find your own happiness, you won’t find it looking for chinks in other folks modus operandi.
When John lost his arm in an industrial accident we bought a brand new car out of the compensation (which wasn’t anything like it should have been). It was parked outside our house and at that time we lived on a council estate, but anyway, we came out to the car during the first week of having the car and someone had keyed it all the way of one side of the car. We could only think someone did it out of jealousy because we had a new car which we could only afford at that time because of a tragic accident.
Like many I have got where I am today alone , without inheritances or family support I’ve done it by myself through graft . I worked 3 jobs for years all min wage and I’m still working part time to help my income . I dont ask much of life I’m not materialistic I have a little house and a little mini . I’m ok as I am and believe me I’m blessed and am grateful for every thing I have .
Because I know someone who lives in social housing ( very nice it is too) all repairs done for her because she rents at a lower rate than private she tells me I’m better off than she because I own my own little house . And my children will benefit when I’m gone . But she also had the chance at one time to buy but she preferred to spend the large amount of cash rather than buy her own little house or flat .
Of course I wish I’d been lucky enough to inherit money but never have and never will , some do and how lovely that must be but a lot do it by hard work and foresight.
Sorry to hear about your car LQ . strange mentality of some . If only they had looked deeper and knew the suffering it took to get that car
I’d say my twin-brother is jealous of me and that has to do with one’s own standards and choices. My twin brother and I started off in the new system on a more or less equal footing but then it turned out that we were having completely different values, interests, views, priorities, expectations which led to a completely different lifestyle up until today. Equal opportunities and personal choices make the difference, nothing else.
Whenever there was an opportunity (career or other) I was always ready to also accept the second best knowing that I’d have to compromise but it would make me progress nonetheless whereas my brother always found fault with something. He sniffed at dealing with investments, was critical about my other decisions in life. All those different decisions accumulated over the years and made the difference that we see today. Today I am at least ten times better off than he is. He lives in a tiny rented apartment and doesn’t have the money to move. He’s the only one in his circle without property ownership, he laments. When a long-time friend of his visited him for the first time some weeks ago, he wouldn’t believe how my brother is living at our age. His jealousy is the main reason why he has refused to visit me in my new home for more than five years.
The interesting bit for me is how my brother interprets his situation. Rather than accept that he could have foreseen his situation evolving as if in slow motion and that his decisions were poor, he puts it down to “bad luck” and “circumstances”.
Sure, finances are not everything but for me he is a good example of a person whose status quo is clearly not the result of a lack of opportunities or bad circumstances but of making a number of choices based on his values or convictions which proved to be plain wrong.
Sadly, he does not even appreciate my assistance, financial and other, over the years.
