Yeah, let’s hope it won’t be so soon.
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I must live in a shangrila - western australia - kimmberley 50% Indigenous - if you don’t get on with em you could be in trouble - if you do they will do anything for ya - we stop and chat in the shops in the streets - the elderly community bus is 90% Indigenous and then me 10%!! - fingers crossed for a good referedum result - there’s a few downers - alcohol restrictions atm but you can always make ya own?/
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I live in a small village…everyone is very friendly and chats we also have village get togethers…tea on the green and quiz nights that sort of thing.
Having read this thread I feel very lucky…
OGF maybe we are lucky to be northern or Yorkshire? I’ve noticed on other threads people seem to live different lives in different areas…I know when I worked in London it seemed like a different planet
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I’m a Londoner, grew up in the west end but even I find the experience far too intense, noisy and irritating these days.
Fine, I love to pay a visit to a museum or a decent London pub but I’m on the train home by the early afternoon… it’s all that I can stand.
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I don’t know about your village Summer but I think some of the crazy things that are happening in Britain today haven’t reached our little village yet. There are a lot of retired people living here, and like the forum, we all seem to cluster together and enjoy being social with each other.
But things are changing and I suppose it will come eventually, I’m just glad that I won’t be around to see it. Yorkshire seems to be a stronghold of friendly, sensible, down to earth people and I’m proud to part of that. I know there are lots of muslims in Bradford and Leeds etc, but to be honest, most of them have integrated well and speak with a local tongue. I sometimes admire their community spirit and family values, could it be it’s because they still have a religion and we don’t?
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Some of their values are fundamentally different to ours, though, and I wouldn’t want to see ours replaced by those.
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Me neither .
People tend to think that other cultures are better than ours and in some ways they are .
But ours are good ones too that’s why people come to live here we are basically a humane compassionate society .
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I live in a place that used to be pretty unnerving (gangs, stabbings, drugs, et al) but is now moving in a more positive direction and our street is incredibly welcoming. We’ve got a WhatsApp group and Church round the corner is a great hub for kindness, with representatives of many sectors of society and ages. There’s still a distinct possibility of being mugged but I love living in a place where there’s tons of diversity of colour, culture, race, language and age. I think I’d be lonely and bored if I lived somewhere tamer - but I do love visiting the country every now and again.
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Would you like to tell us where your live Agua ( just the general vicinity) I live in Wiltshire it’s country and although lovely can be a bit tame !
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I know I said earlier in thread I live in a lovely area but it’s not all pussy cats and puppies.
These are a three stories from my local paper from just one day (today) It’s a relatively small area of south Manchester.
Sigh, you see, I’m not very good at the etiquette of all this and don’t get it it, although I’m willing to try, I’m not horrible 
If you pass your neighbour in their front garden, are you supposed to say something to them then?
Won’t they think that’s a bit weird and pushy?
I like to get on with my front garden work without being pestered myself
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I would generally say ( if close ) good morning / or some pleasantry / your lawn looks nice and green .
( not to my immediate neighbour of course because I don’t talk to him ) the rest are alright .
I go around to see one lady who is 95 and lives alone to see if she is ok .
It’s better with the dog as everyone loves my dog with his lovely friendly face .
So I generally talk to most dog owners / lovers .
I am not super chummy with any of my neighbours they are nice enough people though .
Some people avert their eyes ( such an unfriendly British habit ) to avoid saying good morning .
We are a chilly nation generally must be the weather .
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Religion brought people together. The religious aspect was just an accessory to the social life & networking. People spend far too much time questioning the existence of God rather than understanding the value of having a community like that.
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My tiny house is in the middle of 6 tiny houses . My front garden is maybe 15ft across and attached to two other front gardens. So if I’m in my front garden I’m only feet from a neighbour who passes , but sadly I’m learning in this modern world that some people don’t know how to be polite so I will react in the same way . I am naturally a polite person and often acknowledge others with a smile .
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Keep on doing what you’re doing Susan, don’t let them drag you down to their level, drag them up to yours. It must be awkward for them too but I’m certain they’ll come around in the end if you persevere and you could even become good friends.
I sometimes feel socially awkward but a quick hello puts me at ease no matter who says it first. Good luck.
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We had eight “Good Mornings” one day this week.I think they were all meant for the dog.
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It’s very rare not to receive a good morning while out walking round here.
Occasionally a person will pretend to be using their phone to avoid contact, however, it’s mainly women when I’m out in the country so it might be because they are a bit frightened of being on their own and vulnerable.
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Glorious Peckham! An absolute creative hotbed: musicians, artists, craftspeople, thesps, very green but close to town. And a fair amount of gangs, drugs, knives too! But I utterly love it and wouldn’t live anywhere else. Have lived here in and in Havana for the past 40 years.
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I’ve lived in my current house for ten years, the previous occupant who had lived there since it was built (52years) was found dead on her living room floor. after some time. I realised why she kept to herself after discovering her nearby neighbours, poor soul had been bullied by them.
This is a built up outer London area, but I don’t know any neighbours to speak with, or know their names, most seem older generation.
Ooh, er, I may be in trouble here!
I’m quite reserved and like I say, Londoner, we’re not very sociable in that way, we like our personal space, I expect it’s a defence against living squashed up together
Of course I’ll always respond if someone speaks to me and I’d help out if needed
But I don’t want to be known as the mad old bat who keeps talking to people when they’re trying to get on! People should be able to cut their front lawn without getting pestered
So, no, I don’t make eye contact, say good morning or speak to someone first, only if I’ve got to know them and we’re on chatting terms and not then if they look busy
I wouldn’t think I had to speak to someone who was in their front garden every time I went in my front door
It hadn’t occurred to me anyone would think that rude, I assumed they’d prefer it, I would
I may have to re-think!
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