I sometimes make posts like this one simply because it is in my head when I awaken.
Why not share life experiences?
I was raised in a loveless family
This meant I never developed familial feelings.
As a result, I had trouble developing trust and empathy.
Closeness and intimacy were not possible. I stayed remote from everyone and as a result most of my life I have been alone.
That does not mean I am lonely, aloneness is my life and I have learnt to live with it.
I am fascinated by the reactions of people when family members and friends die.
Because emotional attachment is not a part of my makeup, the death of people means nothing to me.
I simply say, “I knew them, they are no more.”
Has this stunted my development?
Some would say yes, I say, "I have come to love the person I have become and I do not need people in my life.
Understandable Bretrick. I think women are more family minded then men generally speaking. They are the ones that give birth so naturally get more attached.
In he 1940/50 having a family was more of less the accepted way of life. 2 childen one a boy and the other a girl. When I was born in the mid 1940,s it was accepted children were more seen than heard. My own parents looked after us as more of a duty than anything. As you say it tends to make one more singular
I was raised in a family with an alcoholic father, a sadistic mother and 4 peers.
Nothing but fighting and animosity.
It took me to age 26 to flee the environment.
I am okay today and treasure my aloneness.
No. We all fled the family home and never kept in contact.
My eldest brother died of alcohol induced brain damage age 32.
No idea where the others are and after all this time have no inclination to try to find them.
I’ve wondered often how some people have really lovely happy and content lives . Ive met them , great loving supporting parents and into adult life they marry kind partners and live lives happily together . Of course they have problems but together they sort it and have each other to lean on . Life has its difficulties. Its not like this for some if not many . My life has been a roller coaster since childhood and its been so hard at times to survive. Im glad to be the age i am as i hope I’ve come through the worst. I’m happy being alone but it can be hard coping . Ive never had support or people to help and ive had to learn how to have a strong back . Im a natural empath and i care deeply and have always helped others , i guess its because i dont like seeing suffering.
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