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Never good to be ousted! Did you take the wrong coffee? Or was your Victoria Sponge deemed inedible?
I thought this was the season of goodwill Jazzi!?
This is all very intriguing.
Damn this collapsing of window on the iPad!
Yes, the co host has sent me a bollocking today, asking why am I making her look stupid, (sorry darling, you did that yourself), and ended up with my recent input is not required, I am welcome to form my own group, not off the back of her.
I replied something like ‘whoa whoa whoa! I was the one who suggested the cafe as a meeting place, YOU approached me asking to merge the two groups, YOU have been making unilateral decisions, shoving me aside. I want to meet up to find out how it has come to this’ did write a lot more, but she just replied ‘good luck Janet, you have made yourself clear.’ So I answered ‘as have you darling, as have you.’
I had intended messaging Suzanne asking for a meet up later ‘to decide where we take the group as we seem to have differing opinions on who is in charge’ but I never got that chance. Another member, who has DM’d me asking if I was ok, has now stirred the shit. I said to Sharon today ‘if you see my responses on ND, you will have some idea’. What has she done? Sent my posts, to Suzanne, quoting everything! And adding ‘I was only being nice, but got a mouthful. Seems she has got the arse ache!’
So I then answered Sharon with ‘by messaging Suzanne, so you realise what you have done?’ She replied with I didn’t mean to cause any ill feeling, so I had to tell her things took a nasty turn and that I am now out of the group.
I phoned the member who had called round to me yesterday, when I told her briefly my feelings and she completely understood my hurt, and even agreed I was responsible for ‘running the group’. But she was incredibly supportive and was aghast at Sharon’s betrayal. She couldn’t believe what I was telling her.
She reassured me I still have loads of friends, so I have texted some ladies, explaining I have been forced from the group, and that I wish to stay in contact with some of them.
I have phoned Susie, and my brother, rather needing a little shoulder to cry on, and so feel a bit better. In the new year I will concentrate on other things, mainly clearing my home, and/or getting out my creative writing, and carrying on with that.
It is a shame, but if Suzanne wants power, then she can have it.
Thanks for reading/listening. Xx
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Suzanne and I were co hosts of the group, but she made lots of unilateral decisions recently and yes, I was beginning to feel I was losing power and my voice/opinion.
She is taking the stance she started it because she did start a meet up in the local park with her camper van but after the second session (and we did only have about 8 people there) said the camper was going in for works. Which left us with nowhere to go. I piped up with ‘well there is a cafe near me. I could host meetings there’. Which is how it all started. Suzanne then texted me, asking if we could merge the meets and should she start a group on Next Door. And I agreed. We continued with both of us talking of me co hosting. And yet over recent weeks I have noticed a shift in power.
My older sister, when I chatted to her, said ‘part of me would say just walk away, but another part thinks, no damn it, I will fight for my right!’
It seems my decision to walk away has been made for me as it has been made clear I am no longer welcome. Or as C agreed, my being there one Tuesday could create an atmosphere. I said I do not want to alienate other members, because the disagreement is between me and Suzanne, no one else. They can all do as they wish.
Some ladies have responded to my text and said they would keep in touch. One or two others I won’t bother with, but there are more than half a dozen I would love to stay friends with, and hope so.
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I hope so Jazzi, maybe the founder members of a splinter group!
This sounds like a great idea. Jazzi, it sounds like you had the bulk of the creative ideas anyway. Maybe another group would be a nice project to start over the holidays?
I wish you well with whatever you decide.
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I’m very sorry you’ve been hurt over this, especially at this time of year so big virtual hug 
But honestly it might be for the best, she sounds like a bit of a control freak and a nut job, do you really want to have coffee with her every week ?! 
I’d stay in touch with the people you’ve contacted that you like, plan some fun things with them individually and in a group and I think you’ll find your new coffee group forms itself, only this time with people you like in it!
Probably the members thought you ran it better and she’s clearly jealous of you so just get shot of dear little Poison Ivy and do your own thing with your mates
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@butterscotch @Maree
Thank you for your kind words.
I will let Christmas go past before deciding on anything else. I did toy with the idea of starting a friendship group on FB, as Miss Poison Ivy (oh I do love that!) isn’t on there/friends with me.
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Chin up Jazzi
That why so many people say the more I see of people the more I love my dog 
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That’s a good idea
Crikey . Sounds like a couple of them ought to set up a box of frogs group.
Yes, possibilities are popping up, but slowly slowly does it!!
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It happed more or less to me as well on another internet site i used to belong to. The site founder kept asking my advice over a neighbour problem she had and a good few other things as well. So I spent a lot of time checking facts (legal) on what she could do if it got nasty. Having been a member few a good few years I too suddenly got ousted for reasons not known to me and I still don’t.
So I know how it feels Jazzi, it is hard to not being able to join in but in the long run you will be better off having nothing to do with this other lady. Keep in touch with those you want to and stuff the others they are not worth knowing
Thanks for the latest replies. It means a lot.
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Yes, no one will feel like doing much until the New Year anyway, then in January, we’re all looking for something fun to do
FB groups are great, you could start one and invite all the people who said they’d like to keep in touch to join, plus other mates, then organise some meet ups through that, it will be fun xxx
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Jazzi, I am so sorry this happened to you…seems that some people just don’t know how to behave!
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Ooooh Jazzi, the one thing l avoid is women’s groups. They are are like a load of hens with their wings flapping and they are usually backstabbers!!
Try and join mixed groups, l do! There’s less aggro!