Why do I feel so sad and heartbroken when my teenage son told me he does not want me to come into his room anymore
It feels like he is cutting me out of his life and I cannot help but feel the pain deeply.
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He’s a teenager, he’ll forget it in a while.
Don;t worry about it, perfectly normal erratic teenage behaviour.
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Thank you so much, Bruce
But I just cannot stop myself from feeling sad
It only happened last night and the emotions are still so strong.
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Thanks again, I will try to make myself busy, may be it helps!
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Don’t worry about it Pimmy, at some point, teenagers become self conscious about their bodies. He might also need some privacy, perhaps he’s started to feel embarrassed about his feelings…
As Bruce says, you tend to grow out of those things. Try not to show your sadness Pimmy, and carry on as normal…I know it’s hard for someone as sensitive as you…
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@OldGreyFox Thank you so much for your kind words
You are right, he just needs his space and I am starting to feel a bit better now
It is not easy for me because I am very close to him, but I will try my best to carry on as your suggestion.
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Aye,I agree with OGF & Bruce,it’s normal,so don’t worry…The biggest worry for Parents of Adolescents these days is drug use and accessing nasty websites…so just wanting His Own space is fine.x
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@May Thank you for reminding me of that
You are right, I should be grateful that it is only about wanting his own space
I feel more at ease now.
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Your son is just beginning to find his own way in life @Pimmy. Having two (grown-up) sons of my own I can tell you that they too went through the phase of wanting their own lives without their Mum knowing about all that they did - however, I have a very close relationship with them now even though they are married and have their own families. My Dad gave me probably the best piece of advice I have had when he said that if I let them go they would come back but if I made a fuss about it then I could lose them forever,
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Thank you so much Daffy, for sharing your experience with me
Your words give me hope because I truly wish to have a close relationship with my son in the future too
I will try to follow the advice of letting him go so that he will come back to me in his own time.
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Pimmy, I’m not good at advising on such issues, but . . .
Maybe if you said a few words it might clear the air, maybe tell him you we stocked, but have thought about it and you do understand, a man needs his space.
Give him a high five, or something.
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@d00d Thank you, that is a sweet idea
I was shocked at first but now I understand him better
I will wait a day or two before I talk with him, by then we may both feel calmer
This is why I love having friends here, we always care and help each other find a way
Thanks again all!
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It’s the cycle of life Pimmy!
We all grow up and sometimes as far as our kids are concerned we kind of have to let go, at least to some extent. Sometimes that hurts, as long as we’re still there for them 
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@Chilliboot Yes, you are right, it is part of life
It hurts a little but I will always be there for him
Thank you for reminding me of that🙂.
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Hi Pimmy
As others have said it is just the cycle of life.
It is only temporary.
If he gets a girlfriend and wants to bring her home he will be begging you to go into his room and clean it.
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Hi swimfeeders, thank you I know it’s just a phase I’ll give it a little time and you made me smile with the girlfriend joke 
Hi Pimmy
The girlfriend thing was not a joke, it really happens.
Part of teenage boys growing up is the fact that girls have a sense of smell and do like to be appreciated and respected.
The bedrooms of teenage boys are generally to be avoided.
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@swimfeeders Hi yes you are right girls really can work miracles I will just wait and let nature do its job:grin:
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Well Much the same As >> Jethro.
Who In an Indian Restaurant.
Asked 4A Chicken 
Tarka.
The waiter not understanding his accent. Asked him to explain.
Well Its like a Chicken. But a little 'Otter.
My O My.
What an 
Pleasant, Pheasant PeaSant. Jethro Is.
At Con-Fusing. His Feelings.
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Don’t worry @Pimmy, it’s absolutely normal for your son to behave this way. Teenage years are the most difficult and challenging to get through, he just needs his space. He knows you’re there for him and he will definitely consult you when he needs you, you can be sure of that.
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