Good idea, avoid all those Microwaves
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Hi
Living under the radar is not easy, there are a lot of misconceptions and you need a very detailed knowledge of the law in the Country where you are living and if the person you are interested in lives abroad, the law in that land.
There are protections here in the UK.
I will start a new thread about snooping by Big Brother and how it affects
You may find it interesting.
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I just think of it as living a quiet life where you are not conspicuous
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Wife and I have done nothing other than mention it. I cannot seem to get her interested. Often I have thought of having my ashes scattered into the upper reaches of my beloved River Test from where they can be carried downstream and out to sea and around the world, visiting all the places I could never afford to visit when alive. Or more like now, a little secret local church where we can both be scattered on the quiet.
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You could at least write a will with some details as to where you desire to end up after you are gone.
If you were to get the ball rolling, re will, then maybe your wife would at least consider doing the same.
What would happen if you were to die suddenly intestate?
Its great to have all the stuff in place for peace of mind, but, then you can spend the balance of your life wondering if you made a mistake 
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certain things were done many years ago (wills, in case of accidents) recently we have had a complete revue of wills, costs and what is needed to be in place. We have also arranged and paid for funeral plans and informed close family, some were a bit shocked, but things can be changed
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Its hard being final with finality isn’t it
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I don’t want to think about it.
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Well, is is unthinkable for someone used to thinking.
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I know you are right, just knowing what my wife really, really wants is not so easy. Thought about a funeral plan and have been put off as so many are now going bust, and that is dead money.
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Why have a plan? just have life assurance, and make sure you’re gone before 90 years old, before it expires 
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I would not have a funeral plan. Just set aside enough to cover the funerals.
No way would I be giving them money in advance.
Too many charlatans.
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Hell! it’s not like you’re going on holiday is it… 
Make sure you’ve got the plane tickets, passport, and other essential documents in place, only pack enough for what you will need, and make sure the cat gets fed while you are away…
Sure, I’ve made a will…Everything goes to the daughter if I’m the last to go, otherwise, Mrs Fox gets the lot…“Move away from the bath with that heater Susan”…
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Hi
A word of advice from me.
I have everything organised, cremation paid for, disposal of ashes , will, etc etc.
Everything down to the last detail of passwords and PINS.
The folder was upstairs, then the fire, now just a pile of ashes.
Main thing is make sure everything is in a fire proof box,
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Good advice Swim.
Does a daughter count as a fire proof box?
She knows more about me than I do…
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I think it worth noting that the discourse has moved into the decisions that follow after life has ended. I thought end of life decisions were more about how one ended one’s life. Let an illness follow its course, or actively act to accelerate the end of life event, or try to avoid suffering (of oneself and of one’s loved ones).
I think we are avoiding such a chat by talking about where we want our ashes placed.
Difficult to say what you would do until the pain gets unbearable, some people have a higher tolerance of pain and a love of life than others. Unwise to make any decision until you have to.
That is a good observation, however perhaps one might prepare options in advance. The other side not knowing what you would do until the pain gets too bad is that you might not be able to do anything once you reach that point. The lack of prepared options means you might end up with a care team trying to keep you alive when perhaps that wasn’t what you would have wanted by that stage.
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Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together…
Author unknown…
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