My brother is a great, eloquent speaker and is often asked to give a eulogy at funerals of people he knows.
Today, he sent me the video link of the funeral of one of his close friends where he spoke so wonderfully about his friend. I was so proud of my brother as he didn’t falter one bit, or was boring at any time.
The deceased man’s family thought it was wonderful and the congregation applauded loudly at the end of it.
Although, l can confidently speak to anyone, go into a room of people on my own and chat to everyone. l could not stand in front of an audience as confidently as he does.
I would go bright red, l would stammer, forget my words and feel sick.
So l ask, have you ever been asked to do a Eulogy? Did you say, Yes or, refuse to do it?
How did it go overall?
Yes, at my Dads funeral. Saddest day of my entire life. It was heartbreaking
No, by Brother has though.
Yes I have, more than once.
I have a history of speaking to gatherings of people so that side of things doesn’t bother me one bit.
What does bother me is striking the right balance between respect and honesty when delivering a eulogy and finding that balance can sometimes be quite tricky, but so far I’ve not had one go wrong and they must have been appreciated by somebody because I find myself being asked far more regularly that I would really like.
Yes I have I gave it at my Dads funeral so sad…
only time I have stood in front of people to give a talk to was at a confidence building exercise with BT.
Got on ok but not something I want to do.Doesn’t really worry me as long as I have prepared beforehand
No have never given one but have stood beside someone who gave a eulogy for a mutual friend as moral support
My brother did, at my mum’s funeral, but he was incredibly nervous. My SiL, sitting next to me, was muttering ‘go on boy’ quietly. I just couldn’t do it.
I managed to not broadcast my eulogy to my dad on Facebook, Twitter, bbc, radio China but would have done so if I could have done so in that period of grief madness. A fine speech for mum, sister and B&Q types in row 3. Vicar enjoyed it.
Yes - a couple of times - but I am used to public speaking so it did not phase me. Don’t like funerals anyway - they are usually horrid.
I’ve never done one …my sister has done quite a few she does them well. I’ve presented at conferences and the like but it doesn’t come naturally to me…I just got on with it though when I had to…I’m glad thats behind me now.
No, but I did introduce the toast to V’s father at his wake.