Do you mind doing things on your own?

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I’ve got a friend who is very independent about doing things on her own. She was widowed rather young and I really admire her

She’s got lots of friends and belongs to lots of groups, but she’s quite happy to go to the cinema, on holiday, lunch in the pub, join clubs etc on her own

So what things do you do on your own?

I’d go on holiday as part of an organised group, I think. Going to the cinema or a pub lunch I think would make me feel self conscious.

I’m happy to go swimming on my own, but joining a new club I’d rather go with someone the first few times

What about you?

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I do a lot on my own, I travel with my camper by myself, I went round Australia alone though of course you meet people on the way.

I do sometimes travel with others as well but am quite happy when alone and never feel lonely. Over seas I often travel with friends though not on organised tours, we usually hire guides as and when we need them.

My only trip last year was with two of my kids.

When my son takes back his dog I might plan an Autumn trip somewhere.

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It sounds like you have some great trips, Bruce, I’m a bit envious! Enjoy :heart:

I’m not sure I’d be able to that, I’d be scared of what might happen when I was on my own with no one to help

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I have joined clubs, gone walking, had meals, gone to cinema - all on my own.

Never been on holiday on my own though…

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I used to go to a London hospital with my blind brother-in-law that was a bit like being on my own, don’t think I could do it now.
My eldest daughter goes all over the world on her own for work, not for me.

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I am quite happy in my own company and go shopping, walking, cycling and have attended various classes on my own. I do things with friends as well but it’s usually because they don’t like doing things by themselves and ask me along!! :rofl:

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About ten years ago when my relationship finished and l was on my own, l had two choices. One, was to sit about and mope, or do something about it.
I have always gone by the saying, ‘the world doesn’t come to you, you have to go out and get it’! So l did!!

There was a local area social group, so l joined that. Someone would organise things and you went along if you were interested. The first I went to was at a local pub/restaurant.

I arrived at the venue, not even knowing any of the people that were attending, or what they looked like.

As l entered the door, a waiter waved me over to an area where there were empty tables and a man and a woman were sitting at one of them. I smiled at them and sat down.
I made small talk and after about 10 minutes, l asked them if many more would be turning up? They looked at me oddly and said they didn’t understand… they said they were out on a date together. I nearly died and apologised profusely.
I realised after, that maybe the waiter was just directing me to the empty tables in that area!
Feeling so embarrassed, l went to the bar and told the staff, l was meeting a group of people but couldn’t locate them.
One pointed to an upstairs room and said there were a group of people up there.

Feeling relieved that l had finally found them, l entered the room and sat at the long table with the group of people.
I smiled at everyone and a woman came up me and said, ‘l am ever so sorry but this is a private party for my birthday’.
I nearly died, l explained my error but felt so embarrassed.

I went back downstairs and noticed a group had gathered at the bar, it was the group of people l was to meet! What a relief! l had a great night.

I also, joined the local U3A and another group. I met lots of people at those but then Lockdown ruined it all.

So all in all, l don’t mind going anywhere on my own or doing things on my own but l don’t think l could go to a pub on my own, only if l am to meet others.

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I’m confident/comfortable to go to movies and a restaurant alone but for holidays, I’d prefer group trips.

Clubs isn’t something that’s really available here… what kind of clubs? perhaps I could start some up?

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And I suppose it helped that you had two good anecdotes to break the ice with. :slightly_smiling_face:

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I prefer my own company, people just annoy me most of the time.
:sunglasses:

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I use my bathroom by myself and mainly cook on my own as I’m the house chef. . too many cooks and all that. Otherwise, I do most things with my wife as a couple. Oh yes, we do split up when were out shopping… I have my list and she has hers; then we meet up by the checkout area with our trolleys and check we’ve got everything before queuing up to pay. By both us us doing it this way, only a once weekly shopping expedition for four is required :grin:

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Mind? Being a loner, I love doing things on my own and do often.

What types of things ?
Walking
Biking
Swimming
Shopping
Doing yoga
Playing saxophone
Singing
Reading
Sewing
Painting
Woodworking
Woodcarving
Kayaking
Cooking

Note: however the things I do by myself are truly done by myself. For instance , I don’t go to movies by myself or go out to dinner by myself. The only place I go by myself where there will be other people , is shopping and that’s a rarity. I prefer to shop online by myself. :sweat_smile:

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They were on a date together. :joy::rofl:
Omg! Poor you! :grimacing:
I probably would have left at that point. Good for you for being persistent until you found them. It was an honest mistake.

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I spent a lot of time travelling on my own - it was in the nature of my job,

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Oh yes Bratti, if there’s one thing you can say about Arty, it’s that she’s ‘Persistent’!
:face_with_hand_over_mouth:

Runs for cover…
:nerd_face:

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And luckily, you’ve had plenty of practice …. 🏃‍♂️
Lol! ( running that is )

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I often go out to eat lunch alone and have a glass of wine. Iike shopping alone and been to the cinema , I’ve not yet holidayed alone but I’ve found an amazing hotel in Cornwall reasonably priced and I’m going to go alone sometime . I like my own company mostly .

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I haven’t done anything solo for years, in fact cant think of anything I’ve ever done solo, though I probably did before I was married. Late OH & I did things together & I went out a lot & did things with friends, evening classes, to the cinema etc. but never alone.

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Yes, I know exactly what you mean.

I like my own company and really enjoy doing stuff you usually do on your own, on my own. Reading, walking, swimming, gardening, writing, creating etc

But I’d feel really awkward doing some of the things my friend does on her own because you usually do them with other people.

Things like the cinema, the theatre, going in the pub for lunch or a restaurant in the evening

One of my husbands friends goes to the football on his own. He’s says it’s fine at the match but he’s been picked on afterwards getting home for being a loner

He also goes to gigs on his own to see bands he likes and once got picked on and harassed quite badly by the other fans

Perhaps young men on their own get seen as weirdos?

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I like my own company. I’ve been to cinema on my own. I have been to the theatre alone too as I wanted to see a show and none of my friends wanted to go. I went on a coach theatre trip and ended up meeting a woman who was also on the coach alone so we sat together.

I have noticed the older im getting the more I enjoy my own company.

I wouldnt be afraid to go on holiday alone in England but I wouldn’t fly alone.

I wouldnt feel uncomfortable doing anything alone really.