Foxy, I’ve been thinking about your painful periformis, and wondered if you had (or could borrow) a bike?
That way you could still get out in the fresh air and sunshine you love, but it might take the strain off your muscle, do you think?
from time to time we’ve all advised foxy ,as you call, him to slow down or even stop for the sake of his health and his marriage - but he is obsessed with running - riding a bike won’t solve the problem the same muscle is still used - a NHS wheel chair might be the solution?
foxy stop running away from ya problems go and see a psycho - it’s ya mind that wants changing not ya kitchen decor!!
from a true friend - male of course!
Hope all is well today Bob and you are coping ok x
Thanks for all your support, even Gumbud…:-D…Love It…
After three days of mulling things around in my head in that hotel room, and frequent walks alongside the river, on Monday I decided to ‘bite the bullet’ and return home.
I had come to the conclusion that separation would be the best thing for all parties concerned, yes it would be a challenge, but I am finding it impossible to live with Mrs Fox, but harder to live without her…
I arrived home to a tearful Mrs Fox and she held her arms out for a hug…I found it too hard to resist. Where was the angry argumentative woman I had left just three days earlier, I now felt guilty for putting her through this… After several lengthy discussions concerning our future, we have decided to continue with the new kitchen and try and pick up the pieces of our equally demolished life together…
I would love to reply to everyone who has contributed to my sad ramblings, but I’m still feeling overwhelmed by the amount of work I’ve still got to do, work I could have done in a couple of days in my younger days. But I look in when time allows and I do read and digest every post. Thanks for being there…OGF
So pleased you’re giving it another go Foxy, we old ‘uns don’t give up so easily as folk do today!
Can’t you get some help with the kitchen? Hubby has always done our diy, but we’ve now reached a stage where we get someone else to do it for us. He took some persuading though!
Foxy, if the kitchen is another problem, that can be sorted quite easily by just asking for a bit of help.
Few of us can do as much as we used to, so don’t be too proud to get someone in and finish the job - you can be the Supervisor instead of the workman! 
A kitchen is a room needed constantly, so it will only get you both down being in a mess all the while.
Ask Mrs. Fox how she feels about getting someone in. She might be pleased if it gets the job finished, and saving you some stress is a bonus. x
It is my favourite day Friday, and reading your post Foxy, has lifted my heart.
Well done to you both, now get offline and have a cuddle. xxxx
I agree with others here Bob, if you’re finding the kitchen hard work just swallow your pride and ask for a bit of help. 
Good to hear that you are more positive now.
Bob I have only just read what has been happening, I thought you weren’t posting because you were away ( I know you were but I didn’t think you were on your own!):surprised:
I am so glad that both you and Mrs Fox have now remembered that arguments only happen, because they give you a good excuse to kiss and make up.:hug:
My kitchen is my castle, so even Superman wouldn’t be able to do it as fast as I would like, before I flew into a temper.
Get a takeaway and a bottle of wine, so you can enjoy them together and remember that you haven’t stayed together so long just because you liked the cooking and cleaning.
Sage advice ;-).
But do we really want to get daily exercise reports on how well OGF is getting about on his motorized “Hardly Ableson?”
Better to take it all out on the kitchen with a sledgehammer. 
Seriously, though I was almost in tears myself to find you safe and back in the Fox’s den.
Marriage is not for the timid.
One tile at a time…:hug:
So pleased Bob… you should book a short break just for the two of you… no family, the lakes something like that, Secret Escapes have some good offers right now
Pleased to read you are safely back home Bob :-).
I think sometimes following a holiday there can be the sense of anticlimax on arriving back home, things can feel a bit ‘dull’.
Add to that the upheavel of having a new kitchen fitted and a few harsh words said on both sides but not necessarily meant and you have the recipe for discontentment.
Bob when you are both calm it can help to sit and have a good chat about all the things that are bothering both of you and hopefully you can resolve any issues.
and no running! - that’s a marriage breaker - right girls??
Hang in there, Bob. I know you’ll work it out mate
Thanks Meg, there have been quite a few of those good chats since I returned and we seem to have found some middle ground for the time being. I do believe that when the kitchen is back in working order things will be better, what with the kitchen, my injury and our daughters wedding coming up in August, I think I just had to be by myself for a while. Thing is; the older I get, the more I want to spend time on my own. Writing on the forum does help to get it off my chest, and it makes no demands…Unlike some I could mention…
Thanks also to Floydy, Gumbud, Summer, Surfermom and last but not least…Twink, Mags and Mups…It’s nice to know there is somebody in your corner…:hug:…Hugs for all of you (well perhaps just a handshake for Floydy and Gumbud ;-))…Use the hugs sparingly though, Mrs Fox seems to have a monopoly on hugs just lately…
I’m finding it hard to remember when I knew where the cutlery drawer was, or the cupboard where we keep the pots, even my teamug requires a search of the spare room. I’ve still got a few jobs to complete next week before the fitters move in and I can relax. That’s the trouble with being fastidious…:-D…Nobody can do it like you!
Just to put everyone in the picture…I decided to take out the old kitchen by myself and also do all the electrical work, there are plasterers and kitchen fitters descending on Foxy’s secluded dwelling next week when my work will be done, so as well as coping with missing cooking items and trying to get things done before they arrive, I’ve had more than enough time to argue with Mrs Fox and drop out of society for three days last week…
But it’s made me realise…I’m getting too old for this nonsense, and it’s the last kitchen I’ll ever see installed…That’s if I survive this one!..
Bob, you have had a lot on your plate lately and your injury doesn’t help. You need to pace yourself, especially with your daughter’s wedding coming up. I remember when it was our daughter’s wedding, my husband was getting very stressed and uptight about it and he was on edge all the time. Six or seven weeks before the wedding he went down with Shingles and was in a lot of pain with it. His doctor said it was more than likely brought on by the stress and worry of the forthcoming wedding.
That is just an example of what stress and worry can do to you Bob, you don’t want that, so my advice is slow down a bit and pace yourself and you will be ok. My best wishes to you both x.
A day at a time Kiddo…this too will pass
Bob I don’t think it is age that makes us want to be on our own ( I am including Meg and myself on that “us”) I think it is because we have our ideas on how things should be done, so don’t want others to do it differently, if it affects us!
Maybe we enjoy our own company, but there is always occasions when we need an opinion from somebody else… and occasionally their opinions make more sense that our own, providing we allow ourselves to admit it.
People, who know you personally, are always ready to tell you if they think you are wrong but people on the forum will just offer an opinion…so you can ignore them! Being on your own means your ideas can’t be wrong, and often they are not, but we need to remember that even we can’t be right all of the time!
your problem is running Bob - give it up for the women you once loved??