Domesticated, good SOH, n/smoker
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Yes, They’d think I was a right big head!
The idea was that it didn’t have to be big profound things or the same thing everyday so you could list things like “I make a great sphaghetti bolognaise” or “cat’s like me” for your good points (both true in my case!)
Or “I’m going to have a nice cup of tea on a minute” or “I’ll read a couple of chapters of my book today” for things you’re looking forward to.
It’s interesting to do it for a while, but then I got bored 
I prefer my mate’s technique. When you wake up, shout “whoopee, I get another day!”
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Wow, we’d look so funny if we stood next to each other, I’m only 5ft 1in
I definitely need bigging up, anybody got a box I can stand on?
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You can share mine…I’m 5ft 2in 
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My wife at her tallest was only 4’ 10" so tha’t 3" shorter than you 
we had 20" between us
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Imagine thinking that your cats actually like you or thinking you’re a good cook.
How big headed of you.
Oddly enough survivors of abuse are told to constantly praise themselves no matter what others think in order to re-wire the damaged, disconnected brain. Nobody in these groups would ever consider shaming anyone for feeling proud of themselves. Why would they?
It’s crazy!!!
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Quite so, getting this far is an achievement. 
Aw, must have looked cute! Was she the boss though? Us little ladies can pack quite a punch!
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She is definitely the matriarch. She is a Swede and takes after her mother, so definitely has been the one in charge. Now that said, away from her working environment (she retired some years ago) she is SO soft with me, I, errr what’s the phrase … love her to bits and then some:hugs:
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Is it a British thing, do you think, not to big yourself up or it’s seen as boasting[quote=“Bratti, post:66, topic:85403, full:true”]
Imagine thinking that your cats actually like you or thinking you’re a good cook.
How big headed of you.
Oddly enough survivors of abuse are told to constantly praise themselves no matter what others think in order to re-wire the damaged, disconnected brain. Nobody in these groups would ever consider shaming anyone for feeling proud of themselves. Why would they?
It’s crazy!!!
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Is it a Brit thing, do you think, not bigging yourself up and boasting?
“Needs taking down a peg or two” is a phrase that springs to mind
Or maybe it’s an age and generation thing?
At work, as part of our HR we have to say what we’ve achieved and what our skills are.
And at internal job interviews you have to tell them about your competencies
And I genuinely find it very awkward to do, it feels pushy and wish they noticed what I do without me having to spell it out
Most people of my age seem to feel the same but I notice the youngsters have no trouble saying what they’re good at. Attitudes change
As for abuse survivors, abusers often make their victims think they are worthless and deserve no better so praising yourself might help heal but I suspect it takes a long time before you believe it and that voice telling you you’re worthless is always in your head
Anyway, my sphag bol is a delight and cats do adore me, so there! 
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Yeah. I wasn’t actually serious when I called you big headed. I was being sarcastic but I’m sure you knew that.
I do think it’s a British thing but thanks for explaining all of that.
‘Needs taken down a peg’ I’ve probably heard all my life. I guess I should take a hint.
Oddly enough I’m often writing about our adventures, whether that’s while out walking, in the car or in our boat. In my mind I’m sharing fun positive experiences in hopes that it brightens someone else’s day. If it’s viewed as bragging then how do others share their joy or is sharing your joy a bad thing also?
Or are we supposed to only share our joys if someone specifically asks us?
Are we best just praising others for their accomplishments ? Then again how would we know what they are unless they are also bragging about theirs?
I honestly find communicating with others difficult. It doesn’t come naturally for me.
In fact I often find it stressful. Maybe this forum writing just isn’t for me.
Geez. Did I go off topic?
It’s starting to become a regular theme for me:joy:
Ok I’m going to stop this now.
Please don’t write back. 
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Big-up yourself eh
Underneath the broad shoulders and dashing good looks, I’m just your ordinary everyday super hero.
Being serious, nothing special…… but I do think if more people were like me, the world be a better place, oh…and my dog loves me
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Self-deprecation is the British thing. Most of us need encouragement from people like @Rhian to big ourselves up. 
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Once upon a time, I could calculate numbers faster than a auditor with a calculator. 
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What 
No mention of a bike !!!
Not back then.
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It was always waiting, in the wings.
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Husband is 5 feet 10 inches and siblings similar, but his Parents were under 5 feet tall.in fact his late Dad was going to be a Jockey at one time…I am around 5 feet 6 inches and my Dad was 5 feet 11 inches and had size 12 feet. that’s flippers for you…
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From my experience of gov auditors, that is nothing to brag about LOL 
Yes it is, I was the fastest, regardless of the organization. 