Just for simple discussion
Are there things that you wished for or expected once you became an adult?
Did it come true the way you expected or did it go wonky or fell apart?
Example: Ladies… Most girls dream of the perfect wedding, do did you get it?
Example: Ladies… Did you get a baby shower given to you?
Example: Men… You got your dream job, then you bought your house and then found the love of your life, you proposed. What is a yes?
Just add it here to discuss. How happy we are or unhappy…
I did have plans for Princess Anne and living a life among the idle rich but…
No, nothing turned out the way I expected but one has to make the most of the cards we are dealt.
As John Lennon once wrote
“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans”
I don’t know what I expected…I had something of a traumatic childhood so maybe I just wanted stability and to feel safe…I got that so I suppose I did ok
Same here. My father was an alcoholic. I didn’t know what to expect from life. I just did what I thought was the right thing to do. Just because I wasn’t ambitious things turned out very well. I had a lot of luck and there were no disappointments.
Never thought I’d learn stuff like compromise, just goes to show.
Yes, I understand the traumatic childhood. Woo…mine was no picnic either. Difficult when one parent blames you for things that are completely out of your control.
We turn out fine in the end when we stop blaming ourselves for someone else’s beliefs. Personally, took me a while but hubby was great help.
Cheers dear!
Superb Dachs. You did it. Cheers!
One and only sibling was alcoholic. I walked away in my 30s after trying to help and never looked back. What a relief that was!!!
Recently, her child acted the same way. Now, in my 60s, I’m walking away and not involving myself, lessons learned 
Sometimes, it isn’t necessary to compromise. Especially, if it isn’t our fault. So, in the end you didn’t compromise, you chose the better path for yourself 
Difficult childhood… So, once I reached adulthood, I made decisions for myself. Granted it was an eye opener and took guts.
Then after releasing to the universe, things got much better. I knew it wouldn’t be over and done with rapido but slowly and surely it got there.
Marriage was a blessing, motherhood was heaven sent. Granted, planning the wedding day had it’s own kinks but all that glitters isn’t gold and it wasn’t necessary. Once, I got the altar, nothing mattered the right person for this new chapter was there. It was the easiest “I Do” ever, no regrets.
Twice-blessed, there wasn’t any parties, but after each 9 months, pure bliss from such happiness.
Sometimes in life, you’ve to dig deep, and setbacks are annoying BUT tomorrow is a better day.
Positive outlook is what’s helped me. Reversing the bad habits of thinking negatively… Made all the difference!
Finally, when life gives you lemons you learn to make the best lemonade 
Yes, but not in that order. My darling blondie arrived first and then the houses followed. She proposed to me and I accepted.
Can’t say I expected anything. Mum and Dad set good examples and I just wanted to be just like them. Own my own home, never be out of work, and be honest and loyal to my employers.
Tried out a few girls and finally found the right one. We both worked hard and could afford a good life - Not extreme or decadent, but never been without a nice motor or a good holiday each year. Bought a modest 2 bed bungalow (new Build) and produced a lovely daughter. I just seemed to get carried along on the tide of life and things fell into place. I’ve always been a contented sort of person, quite happy with my lot in life.
We’ve been in the same bungalow for 50 years now, and the girl worked out okay too. Done some stuff and seen some places together, so life’s been good with just the odd rapid to steer through, but I’ve never been a worrier. We might be in a quiet backwater now, but we avoided getting washed up on the beach.
51 years of marriage I think says it all. How we arrived where we are now I have mentioned before
For me I had a pretty good job and it allowed me to travel extensively. It also allowed my children to travel me with me at times - the far east, South Africa for example. On the other hand my ex-wife started to get a bit weird, well very weird, and she decided to divorce me. It took six years before she finally got my solicitor got it finally sorted.
I have remarried. Brilliant wife.
When I was young, I secretly wanted the life of a middle of the road person I remember seeing one day. She was washing the dishes, and somehow I thought I was supposed to want that.
I expected my life to be a much more wild ride because I bore easily. I got what I expected and better in some ways.
Happy that I didn’t get what I wanted. 
I didn’t really have any big plans when I was young, just the usual expected of my generation, work, marriage, kids ect ect. I certainly didn’t expect to have a partner nearly ten years younger than myself after my marriage ended, and who was a lifelong friend since I first met him when he was two years old and my pals wee bro. But there you go. Coming from Mull, I am very much a Country and wide open spaces type, I don’t much like living in a town, though only part time, being up on the North Coast and on a small farm is something I never envisioned at all. But again, there you go.
I wanted to be a blacksmith when I left school but couldn’t find an apprenticeship. Instead I ended up doing a college course as part of an engineering apprenticeship with Rolls-Royce Aerospace.
Three years later my uncle, with whom my brother and I had always been close, remarried and I gained a new aunt and two new cousins.
The girls and I became friends, but then a year later I discovered that for some inexplicable reason, the younger of the two girls had had a crush on me since the day we first met. This was very sweet, but also extremely embarrassing because upon the day we met she was only eleven and I was twenty-one.
I was a shy, immature young bloke, inexperienced in the ways of the world, and I had no idea how to deal with this precocious, pubescent child, other than to continue being her cousin and friend.
Growing up, both girls were very attractive and had admirers their own age, and I firmly believed that one day some handsome young lad would turn the younger girl’s head and her feelings for me would gradually fade away, but it never happened.
I got a full time position at the end of my apprenticeship, testing jet engines, which was far more exciting than being a blacksmith, and it enabled me to buy my first house at the age of 24. By this time my cousin and I had settled into an ever deepening close companionable friendship; platonic from my perspective, and unrequited love from hers.
Then when my cousin was seventeen, and I was twenty seven, she asked me if I wanted to “go serious” with her, and to the surprise of absolutely nobody on either side of our family, we began courting.
I bought a house we chose together near where she lived, got engaged six months later, at the second attempt, but that’s a whole other story, and we married the year after when she was still a teenager and I was knocking on thirty.
Our first son was born a year later, on the ninth anniversary of the day we first met, which was of course the ninth anniversary of her parent’s wedding.
We couldn’t have any more kids due to medical complications, but we later adopted a little three-year-old boy, and our family was complete.
Nearly forty years of blissful marriage later we are still madly in love.
Adulthood is nothing like I expected, but I wouldn’t change a thing.
One and only sibling was a constant pain between myself and Mother.
On top of it all, Mother disappointed in me for not having been the son she’d expected. Oh the pains. Nevermind now, water under the bridge.
I knew what I wanted to do, since Papa had died recently, the funds to attend College disappeared overnight. So, I had to choose a free specific diploma.
Of course, never got a job in a wanted field due to an incident on day of job interview. Things changed drastically that day. I went somewhere else and was accepted same day. The difference between Public and Private sectors is an incredible chasm. I retired for health reasons and never looked back.
Did offer my services freelance. Got so little out of it that I gave up the idea and began writing while still being a home teacher, cook, baker, dishwasher, house cleaner, nanny, paramedic, wife, mother and best friend lol!
Ladies, if our husbands had to pay our worth in the jobs we do at home… Title would be Home Engineer, Salary: 1 million a year. How I hear you ask?
Add the basic minimum salaries of all these jobs put together and it’s impressive 
Anyway, some of us do it freely and for love 
PS : my parents seem to have a good life, so I wanted the same and definitely wanted to have a family with a good man. I did indeed and thanked my lucky stars.
Now, I’m widowed, too soon it’ll be a year all this crazy ride began and even though it’s sad to face the future alone with just my wonderful daughter and cat… The future looks good. Bring it on!
I didn’t really have any expectations. I did know I would like children though. Life just rumbled on and after several shortish relationships, I met my now husband. Even that just seemed to happen, not much planning involved. Married at 24and children followed.
46 years later and we are still married so someone was looking down on us.
Things changed after I noticed other folks did not think about stuff that one had no control over so I stopped, now, those same folks are worrying about stuff they have no control over, strange times. 
