Would You Talk

[Mups]

@pauline3

When you think about, we speak to strangers on the forum, don’t we?

True - but on the forum we can click a button and end it when we’ve had enough. Not so easy to get away from someone on a train or bus.

Another way of looking at it also is, just because we might feel like passing the time or having a chat, it doesn’t always mean the other person wants to.
Like someone said earlier (was it Maree?) she finds it annyoing when she is on a train trying to read her book in peace, and someone wants to tell her their life story.
So there are two ways of looking at this to me. It’s not always just about what WE want to do.

[AliceWonderland]

[pauline3]

That’s when I use my “ tuning in experience “…watch their body language and what it’s saying to you.

I can tell if someone doesn’t want to engage in conversation, unfortunately not everyone is tuned in, in that way…same as I can tell when someone is deliberately trying to bait me on a forum,(I’m a member of two other forums), ignore the bait…on the bus it’s difficult to ignore them, don’t get me wrong, there are days when I just want to be left alone, I try and think ,that they may live alone and have no one to speak to, i couldn’t possibly be rude, so sit and listen to what is being said.

[pauline3]

Ain’t that just the truth for some, …it was for both my exes, if I started talking to a guy,

[Maree]

@pauline3

That’s when I use my “ tuning in experience “…watch their body language and what it’s saying to you.

I can tell if someone doesn’t want to engage in conversation, unfortunately not everyone is tuned in, in that way…same as I can tell when someone is deliberately trying to bait me on a forum, ignore the bait…on the bus it’s difficult to ignore them, don’t get me wrong, there are days when I just want to be left alone, I try and think ,that they may live alone and have no one to speak to, i couldn’t possibly be rude, so sit and listen to what is being said.

Oh yes, I’d never be rude or unkind, I might be the only person they’ve spoken to that day. Just have to put up with it and be kind

But that doesn’t stop me sighing in my head and thinking “why me?”

I think I must have a friendly face!

[pauline3]

@Maree

@pauline3

That’s when I use my “ tuning in experience “…watch their body language and what it’s saying to you.

I can tell if someone doesn’t want to engage in conversation, unfortunately not everyone is tuned in, in that way…same as I can tell when someone is deliberately trying to bait me on a forum, ignore the bait…on the bus it’s difficult to ignore them, don’t get me wrong, there are days when I just want to be left alone, I try and think ,that they may live alone and have no one to speak to, i couldn’t possibly be rude, so sit and listen to what is being said.

Oh yes, I’d never be rude or unkind, I might be the only person they’ve spoken to that day. Just have to put up with it and be kind

But that doesn’t stop me sighing in my head and thinking “why me?”

I think I must have a friendly face!

Don’t stop me from praying either ,in my head,…if you get my meaning,

[pauline3]

I also think that when a member of the public does approach me and want to talk, it’s great to have that understanding that I may be the only person they have seen all day,…as we grow in maturity and understanding ,I think we also grow in patience…all about desiring to learn and understand where people are coming from, it’s a great tool if you possess it, ……I’ve always prayed for that ,it’s important to me …tuning into people is a gift imo…can take a long time to develop mind…remain open minded and try not to take what people say personally…when having those conversations.and I’ve had a few, where they’ve got very personal…makes my hair stand on end sometimes.even on forums we are talking to complete strangers…

[Rox]

Yes often, I find people like to talk when your out with a huge dog like my Dageus, and also people at the pool can be quite chatty, too chatty at times as I’m there to swim not talk lol.