I used to be terrible at buying doubles of things because I thought I had lost the first one! Then I came across the original and berated myself for being lazy and not looking hard enough and what-a-waste-of-money-now-you-plonker, etc, etc
It does not happen in my house as most of what is bought is purchased together or at least with the other’s knowledge.
I don’t have the exact numbers available, but I will start to collect the data & advise everyone, who wants to know, in due course.
I’m terrible at buying Christmas presents in the January sales …. Only to find them squirrelled away years later, leaving me thinking who did I buy that for
A skillful answer, LD, hope your nose didn’t get longer, as a result!
We’ve always purchased together Ted and unless one of us becomes bedridden, I hope we always will.
Mind your nose on the forum walls
I’ve never heard that. I usually agonize over my purchases, so anyone around for miles who might even slightly care would know about it. If someone hadn’t heard the agonizing, they wouldn’t deserve a response.
I’m hoping to change the agonizing part. If I do, we’ll see if anyone asks.
This is what I get said to me, from my son, I see you’ve been buying again, you didn’t need that,
I honestly feel like he’s my dad at times,
I either hide stuff that I have bought from his roaming eye.
Or I tell him, he makes me feel like I need his permission to buy something,
On saying all of that, I do tend to buy things I don’t need.
He’s only trying to help,I understand that also…the small things I buy, soon adds up .
Isn’t that what retired folk tend to do with spare money? So long as you are happy from the buying experience and you do not go without any essentials, I do not see any harm in that. My wife likes and buys antique silver & glassware as a collector, although never without seeking my opinion first. I always agree with her selection as I’ve no idea what’s what in antiques; just so long as she is happy, I am happy too
Your money,your choice,end of.
I wouldn`t ever be questioned by anyone about what i buy,and i would tell them regardless who they are there and then.
He never complains when I buy him something…I wonder why that is…
I told him I bought a hedge trimmer, he congratulated me on that, as he said it will save me money in the long run.
The last time I heard a variant of that from one of my daughters a few months ago: Why the new car? Why a second car at all? I ignored the question but today I’d have replied : “Because you wouldn’t nor couldn’t help me if I needed help. That’s why and also because I want to be independent as long as possible.” I know it was not ill-intentioned, though. Maybe she was just worrying if I could afford it.
I may have heard that question, or variants of it, also earlier in life from the kids when we were still living together under one roof but I can’t remember exactly. I usually understood it as a disguised complaint about not having enough money of their own at a point of time. Knowing that that can’t have been true I didn’t take it seriously and it didn’t happen very often anyway.
Your daughters are concerned that you’re frittering their inheritance away.
That may well be but they don’t need it because they have enough money of their own.
That’s OK .no pressure.On my desk Monday morning will be good.
It’s what parents do P, we are all guilty of never really letting go. A child is forever and not just for their early years
I’m having a great time at the moment buying for the house…yesterday I was in Harrogate for light fittings today I have to stay in between 11am and 1pm for bathroom suite delivery…its all very exciting
At least the stuff I’m buying is useful…that might change though as time goes on
No I can’t honestly remember ever being asked that question. Mr B and I spend our money as we wish, without ever feeling the need to account for it to each other. If I want to buy something, it’s my money I’m spending so he doesn’t ever ask why I’ve bought it - he knows I’ll have had a good reason, even if that reason is simply that I wanted it.
Neither do I ever feel the need to seek his opinion on something I want to buy, as mostly the stuff I spend money on is sewing/crafting related and he knows nothing about the subject, so how could his opinion be worth anything? I would hate not being able to buy anything impulsively without first having a conversation with Mr B about it, to get his approval or opinion. I know a couple like this, who never, ever do anything independently of each other. Wherever one goes, so does the other; whatever hobby or interest he has, so the wife immediately develops the same hobby/interest; every single purchase, either for the house or for their individual personal use, is made together. I would find that sort of relationship really suffocating.
None of your business!!!