Small home tweaks for ageing safely – what’s actually worth doing?

Our grown-up kids have started gently nagging my husband and me about “making the house safer now you’re in your sixties”. I do enjoy DIY and I can see their point, but I don’t want to throw thousands at big projects if a few sensible tweaks would do.

We’ve done the obvious bits – non-slip mats, better lighting on the stairs, a grab rail by the shower – but I’d really value ideas from others who’ve been through this stage.

Have you made any small, budget-friendly changes at home that made a real difference as you got older? Things that helped with safety or made everyday jobs easier, without making the place feel like a hospital.

I’d be very grateful for any practical suggestions or “lessons learned” about what was worth doing and what turned out to be a waste of money. Thanks so much. :grinning:

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I’ve not needed to do that (yet) and in fact plan to switch from two story house to horizontal living (bungalow) in about ten years when mobility may become an issue.
However, we got quite a few things done for my mother when she reached a point that safety was becoming an issue. All the usual stuff that you have already done - hand holds in key places, etc.
Other ideas was a fairly radical move around of stuff in the kitchen - essentially clearing out stuff that was hardly ever used, moving everything out of the hard to access cupboards and focusing day to day food & plates on the eye level cupboards. And putting a simple, light chair in the kitchen so that my mother bent down to lower cupboards while sitting.
We tried a higher chair for doing food preparation sat down but this did not work. Basically it is a question of where do your knees go. And sitting sideways to prep food is not comfortable.
Another thing we did (after our lesson was learnt) was to move the fixed land line telephone connection and buy multiple additional phones so that anywhere my mother might fall, there was a phone at hand. I know, in theory a mobile phone removes this need, but my mother kept her mobile safely shut in a high up drawer unless she was going out. Go figure.
You can also get a hand hold that has a metal plate to slip under the mattress to provide better grip when rising out of bed - but this also did not work for my mother. Shame as it seemed like a good idea.
Last idea - an external lock box for a spare house key. That way anyone trusted (relative, neighbour, social services, doctor, cleaner) could be given the lock box number and get into the house if my mother was in some way unable to get to the door. The advice is to place the lock box in plain view and not hidden round the back of the house. Apparently thieves very much welcome a quiet, hidden spot to quietly work through the thousands of possible number combinations. Site it right next to the front door.
Really last idea - falling is one of the risks of getting older. I know my mother’s local council ran classes in falling safely. The logic is that its likely you’ll get a dizzy turn just when you are slightly off balance and the next thing is that you are on the floor / pavement / garden. The class tries to teach how to fall (well actually how to land) with less risk of breaking a wrist or a leg. Or a nose. (A few years ago my dog bowled me over and my subsequent face plant was quite messy.)

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With the Back of the house facing South.
Sun :sunny: from Dawn to Dusk.
The personal pleasure. Of listening rain, pitta pattering the glass. Visuals of starlight, even. Lightening at night.
A Conservatory, rang the “Must Have” Bell.
Expensive and a tad, unbecoming modernisation of a 200yo property.
That on research. “Added nowhere near its cost, to the overall valuation”.
Such is the cost. Of Ones Own. Unregretted Satisfaction. In Dotage. :laughing:

@Margaret1963 If you intend to stay put and the house has stairs, I can recommend a decent lift complete with a compressive maintenance contract :+1:

Not very budget friendly but converting the toilet/bathroom to a wet room was a worthwhile safety measure for us. A shower chair under the showerhead is a good addition for later years.

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If you possibly can, live at ground level.
In addition to all the measures described here, for use in the future it might be worth considering an emergency call button, particularly if you live alone. There’re systems with different options for every budget which may include things like: Who shall an emergency call contact first: The emergency response centre or family members? It may come with a fall detector, a hands-free speakerphone function to speak directly to staff at the emergency response centre, etc. Since we have had it installed in my MiL’s home, we all feel safer.

I have added a couple of grab rails to help me but that is about it at the moment.

The main advice I have is that the cost of preparing a home for long-term living is much cheaper than assisted living - even if it means some moderately expensive renovations like Mart’s excellent idea to make an entire bathroom wet. That is exactly what we have planned for our master bath. A zero-entry shower tremendously reduces fall risks, and a wet bath can accommodate shower chairs and a wheelchair. Toileting and showering are the number one reasons people move out of their homes and into skilled care.

I would go ahead and put grab rails in the toilet. After watching my parents and in-laws age-at-home, those rails were inevitable. We also installed bidet toilet seats, which were extremely convenient and not expensive at all.

We purchased carts that helped them move items from their cars to the front door or to the kitchen if coming in from the car. In the garage, we installed hanging tennis balls so they would know where to stop the cars since depth perception became an issue. Get heat tolerant tops so the carts can also be used to move plates, pots, and serve ware across the room. The warning here is that those carts should never be used like walkers.

I also put Amazon Alexa’s in every key room and set them up for verbal dialing, especially for emergencies. They also became helpful for making grocery lists and reminders. My mother had an emergency call button, but the thing kept going off when she bent over, thinking she had fallen.

Getting rid of the extra clothing and stuff is essential, and go ahead and arrange everything how YOU want it. It can be extremely confusing to move things around once cognitive issues start creeping in.

Eventually you will want to consider sprinklers or a sprinkler system that will water your yard and gardens without having to go outdoors.

Change out twist door handles to French lever-style doors. As you replace faucets, likewise install ones that lift rather than twist. Make sure that all faucets have CLEARLY marked hot and cold symbols (blue and red).

Go light as you replace items over the next several years. You don’t realize how the weight of dinnerware, power tools, garden pots, and the like can become such a hassle once arthritis and mobility are issues.

Start staking out where you want motion and solar night lights. My dad installed motion night lights that illuminated whenever one of them got out of bed, entered the bathroom, or the kitchen.

I don’t know if your parents have dogs, but we put trackers on the dogs in case they got out so they wouldn’t chase them and we put soft bells on the dogs, so they would be aware of the dogs’ presence, so less likely to trip over them.

I agree with Lincolnshire about falling. Start now to keep your mobility up by practicing daily to stand up from a chair using no hands, and practice getting off the floor.

Hope this helps.

Put an attractive youngish female in front of a man with so called disabilities and just watch him spring into action

Surprising that nobody has yet invented a cart that can move like a robot hoover along a pre-defined path from room to room with your cup of tea or lunch. I guess door thresholds become a thing. Someone seems to be developing a robot cart that can carry dirty washing or dishes, but I’m guessing they haven’t yet worked out how to get these items up and down stairs.

From experience with our mum, I would say look at replacing heavy drawer units and closed cupboards with open shelving which makes things easy to see and reach.

An extra stair rail or stair lift. Having had some post covid leg problems myself (now thankfully recovered), I know myself how hard it can be negotiating stairs.

Grab stick for reaching for items or picking them up off the floor.

You can get those stick on battery powered lights for areas that are poorly lit or far from a fixing.

Internal security cameras external camera doorbell - cameras can be linked to family members’ phones so they can check on you. Obviously you have to be careful in deciding if you want this as they have intercom facilities so you can hear conversations.
Keysafe as already stated. It really depends on where you live as to where to site it. In less safe areas people attach them lower down so it looks like an electric fitting. Set it to zero when locked. There isn’t a perfect place but the main thing is to get a really secure one that is difficult to crack open.

Battery powered doorbells with portable chimes can help alert others to problems

The main problem tends to be high steps or thresholds going into or out of the house. That is something you can invest in changing early on with a redesign or built in ramp/outdoor grab rail. Also worth putting that sort of thing in the garden if you have one.

Plug in night lights are handy so you don’t trip in the dark and have a fall.

This type of bath seat was really useful if you’re not ready for a wet room as it’s cheap, easy to fit and very robust if you have an over bath shower.